Addicted to interracial porn and fantasizing about wife

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  1. Billionrob

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    Hi guys , I'm 31 and I been obsessed with interracial porn now for a good 5 years or so , it's getting so bad I actually want to see my wife with a black guy I'm kind of worried its gonna get stronger the feeling to . I bought a black dildo for her and she actually likes it but she's not into black guys but I feel if I tried hard I could convince her to but I dont want to at the same time cos it will ruin our relationship I think . I just cant get enough of bbc in white pussy idk what's wrong with me and i dont know how to overcome it at the moment and the fantasy. At first i was cool just to keep it a fantasy about the misses but now I'm starting to think i might want to make it a reality now which before i didnt .. thanks for reading . Feel free to inbox me or if anyone else has feelings like this
     
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  2. Quit the porn and whatever you do don't go ahead with making the fantasy a reality. You will regret it and lose the respect of your wife. It's just your brain trying to seek novality. It's a porn induced fetish most likely.

    After a while of going no pmo people usually go back to their sexual tastes before porn addiction. Good luck!
     
  3. Billionrob

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    What's PMO?
     
  4. PMO = porn masterbation orgasm

    It's mentioned a lot on here so it's handier to shorten it to that. Some just quit the P and still do MO. Or you can quit the PM and still O with a partner.

    Usually in the beginning we want to go no pmo for as long as possible in order to straighten our heads out and get back to the way we used to be before porn. Most aim for 90 days no PMO.
     
  5. unexpectedjellyfish

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    For sure quit porn forever, it'll be hard AF but as you've noticed it's getting out of hand over time. Good luck man on your journey man, stay strong.
     
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  6. You shouldn't force your own fantasies on your wife. Stop watching such stuff as soon as possible. It's not your life alone.
     
  7. ctjohn

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    I had a similar fantasy for a long time with my wife. To be completely honest, I think sharing fantasies with your partner is a healthy thing as long as she is open to sharing and you're not forcing them upon her. NOW... I completely agree with others that you need to get away from the porn. It will (and it sounds like it already has) started to warp your view of your wife as well as your ability to please her sexually. In my case it negatively impacted how I was behaving and viewing her, hurt are already poor sex life, and led me to spend more time and energy wasting my life viewing porn. It's a slippery slope and you can find yourself falling fast.
     
  8. Except that is not his fantasy. It's a reflection of porn in his brain that will go away when he stops consuming it. Or does this seem to you like something a heterosexual man would normally say:
     
  9. to be honest i am exactly like you.but am not married and am single.but i always watch IR porn.it started within this 2020 for me. everytime i relapse bcz of this thought.

    now, dont tell your wife anything about this.you can fix this if you have some patience.first start semen retention.and be an alpha male with strong masculine characteristics.second tell your mind i love my wife more than any addiction or fetish.if any thought came just go and hug her.kiss her.and tell her am lucky to have you . this way slowly that cucold part in you will eventually die.

    then with her go for some trips.like a vaccation and no third person.only you two.when you travel with her you two depend on each other and it will create a bond between you.

    i know how this cucold thing works and i know its hell bro..sitting there as a loser seeing some big man do sex with your wife.bro its satanic never do it.
    stop seeing porn is the only solution.do it conserve your semen . after some days of semen retention start healthy sex with her ....
    n: i am poor at english sorry for that, if someone feels that what i say is bullshit kindly ignore.if you find this helpful am happy...let god help every soul to know and reach his true destination
    om nama shivaya
     
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  10. Billionrob

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    Thank you so much for your reply yeah this makes alot of sense . I am usually a alpha Male always been that way but this IR porn shit has brainwashed me . I know it would ruin my relationship in the long run to its really not worth it is it , why do I even want another man to touch my wife? I don't to be honest, I was thinking of stopping the IR and mastabaiting over it and just focus on having sex with my wife . I've always pleased her she loves having sex with me we always had a great sex life been together 10 years and it's never faded out . Always had a spark .for the other guy above I haven't forced anything on her at all . I haven't bought it up . We just have a bbc dildo . She dont like black guys in that way so I wouldn't even bother bringing it up but I just bought the BBC dildo and she ended up liking it and it being her favourite dildo but she still said to me when we used it your not imagining me with a black guy are you , I wasn't either just enjoying her do her thing on it
     
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  11. You want to be cucked? That’s fucked. Quit pmo ASAP
     
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  12. Billionrob

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    No I'm not a cuck . That shits fucked up doing clean ups and other gay shit .. its known as a voyeur not a cuck .. at this point I wouldn't consider doing it anyway . Just a fantasy
     
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  13. Ahiphena

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    I hate to break it to you, but being aroused by the thought of your wife with other men is the core of cuckoldry. Not that it matters though, its most likely a direct result of your porn use whatever you want to call it, and will go away with time if you can avoid porn.
     
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    Please just try to quit. Coming to this forum was a good idea.
    You can start healing now. All of those "fantasies" have been propagated through porn. You do not realize it now but after you become sober from your addiction you will see things more clearly. You have been brainwashed through viewing that type of porn. What started as a novelty seeking, addiction escalation have now completely controlled your mind. But you can still stop it.

    It's not a healthy fantasy! maybe you are not seriously thinking about it now but it's a slippery slope.
     
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    Thanks for all the above comments .. I'd like some advice on how to stop it . I can stop mastabatin to it but as I have a wife we still have quite a active sex life so i need to O ... so i guess I'd have to stop mastabation and porn am I correct? .. I dnt want this fantasy I love my wife . We have a great sex life and I dont want to ruin it.
     
  17. SoaringEagle

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    I don't think there is a problem with O, just stop watching porn or fantasizing as much as possible.
    If you can't stop your thoughts try to keep busy, work, gym or any activities.
    Give your brain sometime to heal. All you need is to abstain from watching porn. It might take sometime. But you have a beautiful life ahead of you both, you can turn this around.
     
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  18. Billionrob

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    Thank you
     

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