Addiction and homosexual thoughts

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  1. Quitporn forever

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    I am 25 year old men
    At school time I have been teased like kiss initially to End with masturbation over a span of five years by my friends in hostel, initially I resisted don't know anything at that time but over the times I liked those things, and then i went to college where I was silent and watching heterosexuals porn vedios from friends laptop (that time I don't have internet access) for three years then when I got internet access I myself directed to see gay porn vedios I never had sex with anyone till now but I watch excessive gay porn vedios that leads me to a depression about watching porn vedios and my sexual orientation
    I visited this website to overcome porn addiction
    I have Querie that without controling my homosexual orientation can I able to control my pornaddiction
    How to change my sexual orientations
     
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  2. You can't change your sexual orientation, so you need to accept yourself as you are.
     
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    Thank you sir but those homosexual thoughts which cannot be accepted by me in real life
    So which I think diverted me to excessive homosexual porn and addiction where I can gratify myself without knowing to anyone
    And I strongly believe that anything can be changed in this world
     
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    Quitporn forever Fapstronaut

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    Anyone kindly help me
    To overcome this situation
    Please
     
  5. PappinAce

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    What does your sexual orientation have to do with your porn addiction? In what way do you presume that "solving" your homosexual tendencies will cure you of porn addiction? As Gary says, accepting yourself is the first step...
     
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    I cannot accept that I am as gay (b/o my circumstances -family and surrounding ) that's the problem. And my orientation which I definitely know early times in school I was aroused by women not men, as the day progress i
    gradually become homosexual orientated by behaviour of both me and my friends but these things will exaggerated after seeing homosexual porn vedio( I can visualize the progree over a days now I was just aroused seeing any men and think about them) I don't attempt at any men in real and then I come to room think about them and enter into porn, this cycle keep on rotating
    So I think if i accept am as gay ( which I don't want ) this will make me more towards porn addiction vigorously
    Please please help me
     
  7. First, stop watching porn. You can only deal with healthy sexual attraction after you've stopped porn long enough to reverse what it's done to your mind. Who you're attracted to is another issue.
     
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  9. DrabToLight

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    Porn cannot make you gay

    If you were straight before you started porn you are still straight. If you were gay, you are still gay.

    There is no program that can change you sexuality.

    No not get involved in any of the "pray the gay away" groups. They only cause harm.

    You aren't being specific. What situation? Being gay or being a straight man that looks at too much porn?

    If you want help with porn, it is here.

    Exactly, gay or straight, too much porn is the problem.

    Exactly. Porn is the problem. Being gay is not a problem. NoFap is a science-based program that helps people stop watching porn.

    If you are gay. Grow up. Be a man. If your family can't accept you as a gay man, then they are idiots. Is there room in your life for people who are that stupid?

    If you are a straight man who just looks at porn. Then, this program can help you.

    Stop porn for 100% sure.

    However, stoping porn will not change your sexual attraction.
     
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    Thank you all for valuable advice
    I am starting Today as my first day in Nofap
    And I Keep on update my self daily and frequently here
    I need everyone support for my recovery
    With confidence I will support others
    Expecting and hoping very good things in upcoming days
     
  12. Honestly, I think you never had your “sexual orientation” I think your root cause is the pornography. It is equally degrading. Step one is to walk away and keep your life away from the pornography.
     
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  13. Even though some people want to avoid this uncomfortable fact, an excessive abuse of porn CAN lead to homosexual tendencies. Our forum, and plenty of people writing here are a painful reminder about this truth. Look for such threads and scientific articles that deal with this problem if you want to, but...
    ...first of, listen to the brothers above and start with getting rid of this obnoxious addiction. Avoid any porn. Take up some challenge (90-days?).
    Afterwards, you'll know if homosexuality is any issue. So far, based on your description, it's porn-induced.
     
  14. Hadrian3

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    What made you think you're homosexual? Your taste in porn is a weak thing for identifying your sexual orientation. Nevertheless, It's fine to be gay.
     
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    Thank you all
    I am motivated by you people
     
  16. recoome

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    you can visit a therapist to clear out your orientation confusion. stop watching all kinds of porn. if ur friends make fun of you to the extent that your uncomfortable, they are no friends of yours.
     
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  17. DrabToLight

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    Could a gay man who had no internet access but, found mountains of old magazines, DVDs and other straight porn material in a corner of his father's garage end up with "heterosexual tendencies"?

    It is not possible for porn to change a person's sexuality.

    More importantly, there is nothing wrong with being gay.

    For sure. Porn is a lie. Everything in porn is a lie. The vast majority of people in the real world do not look like the people in porn. Real men and women do not act like they do in porn. Getting a pizza delivered doesn't lead to sex and most people never have a next-door neighbor who looks like the women in porn.

    Why? Because porn is a lie.

    - D2L
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  18. Di.Do.555

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    You have two choices :
    1- Accept your sexuality.
    2- You are right, everything could be changed. But changing your orientation does take years of diligent efforts.
    I have not tried it as i am only attracted to women, but after researching the brains elasticity i came to believe that everything could be changed.
    On changing: never fight an idea or an orientation. The better option is to introduce a better idea and affirm it over and over , and the old idea will fade away.
     
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    Today my Bests wishes to all
    I have completed day 1
    I had a thought that ,so hereafter you won't see porn hence you allow today as last
    But with motivated mind I have overcomed
    Once again thank you all
     
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  20. iwontfail67

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    If you had a natural attraction to men ever since you can remember than you might be gay. But if you started like everyone else with Hocd, had an extremely exclusive attraction girls, never even blinked or acknowledged another man, and found yourself unknowingly escalating into extreme levels of porn because of desensitisation than you are easily straight and just have a porn problem.

    A lot of people freak out and think they are gay because they occupy their minds with constant reassurance and flashbacks of extreme thoughts every day that they let their anxiety irrationally convince them they are something that they clearly aren’t. The gay thoughts are so persistent despite contradicting literally every aspect of their life. Ask yourself if these thoughts are natural and make you happy or if they are extreme and give you a meth-like hit of dopamine because everything else natural to you is so desensitised. Are they real thoughts or addiction rationalisations?
     
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