A bit of a long story, but i'll try and keep it fairly brief. This woman got in touch with me about 3 years ago through Facebook, private messaged me saying hello and that we had a mutual friend etc, she asked to meet up, and as per usual i was keen, we organised a date, & after a few drinks, it led to sex at her place, the sex was amazing, she made me O, which was crazy - because i had been struggling with it for years while travelling, most of the time girl's just could never really get me there due to how de-sensitized i was from my porn consumption. I was hooked. her pussy was unreal, and the things she was doing with it was always leading me to completion (which again, was so damn rare for me during sex) must add: she is 11 years older than me. So we stayed in touch, and i would go and see her usually every week or two in the evening time, turn up, chat, have sex, hang out, and eventually would leave (have an issue with sleeping in other peoples beds, and generally just having 'strangers' sleep next to me, i can just never fall asleep!) So this became a bit of a thing.. week in, week out, 3-4 hours at her place, always sex, and always being home before midnight, it worked out great, as it was just super convenient, having amazing sex, and then a chance for me to be alone, as i'm sure most guys will admit, after you have O'd, you feel a bit vulnerable, shameful, guilty, and don't feel like being near people, that is the case for me, at least. Until this conversation came up.. ''so, what are we? are you sleeping with any other girls like this? why do we never do anything in the day? go for walks, go out for dinner?'' To which i replied, ''well, i don't know what we are, i would say currently, its a type of fuck-buddy / friends with benefits thing...'' to which she wasn't best pleased, she wanted it to evolve into something more meaningful (which most women do...not all, but most) I told her that i wasn't looking for anything more, and i was happy with the situation, i had just come out of a 8 year relationship, and wanted something casual and fun, and wouldn't she like the same? providing that we are honest with who we are both sleeping with, and making sure not to pass any STD's onto each other.. She came round to the idea of it, and we carried on doing what we were doing, week in, week out.. a few more months go by, and she says she isn't completely happy, and feels like she needs more of an emotional connection, rather than a fuck-buddy thing.. so i told her ''okay thats fine, if thats how you feel, then we can just end it so no-one gets hurt and not see each other again'' But.. ''i think i'm in love with you....'' she said.. ''i want you to stay the night, and i want us to go on walks, and not have everything just be about sex'' This shocked me, and i did not see it coming.. i replied ''shit... really? are you sure?... i mean... i'm not looking for a relationship, you know this.. i've always wanted it to stay casual and try to leave feelings out of it'' She replied ''i know you do, but can't i tempt you with more? can we not try doing more than just evening sex?'' ... i thought about it, but just didn't want that, didn't want anything to evolve into something meaningful, i was happy with being single and not having to be a boyfriend anymore, since being single it had been the most stress-free anxiety-free years of my life, and being in a relationship would only put me back into that terrible headspace, and importantly to add: i didn't feel any love for her during all of this. So we called it off, the best sex of my life, the thing i dream about, masturbate to, and always get head over heels excited for, finished, over. Okay, thats fine... i can find someone else who wants something casual, another fuck buddy (i had a couple at the time, but they just weren't like this, this woman, she just knew how to please me and nothing compared) 3 weeks go by, and thinking about our sex, everyday... masturbating to the thought of it, trying to find porn that looked like it, the position's we do, the type of woman that looks like her.. She messaged me, ''i'm thinking about you, and would love to see you'' I jumped straight at it, and went over to see her that night, we had amazing sex and hung out for a bit, and i left, we carried this on for 3-4 more weeks until the same thing came up, she mentioned she wanted more and couldn't do this without an emotional connection being both ways... so we ended it once again, to cut a long story a bit shorter: This happened 20 times in 3 years. on, off, on, off, on, off etc etc. sometimes a month long, sometimes 3 months long, sometimes weeks long, the periods of cutting it off differed, and both of us were to blame for the contact and re-starting it again, it was very much 50/50. But gradually it got more intense, she was crying after sex, she was confessing her love more and more for me, it really was just a one-way street, and my addiction to her and our sex just wouldn't let it go. Two weeks ago, we called it off for what i HOPE is the final time, and praying that my self-control when she messages me will rise above and not give in, because i should not let this continue, if she is in love, and i feel nothing but lust, its blatantly not fair on her, and i should be letting her move-on with her life. Anyone else been in a similar toxic fuck-buddy situation like this? its been a crazy part of my life, and i'm hoping with NoFap i can help kick it with my new found self-control.