Things have been going well as far as his recovery goes. I have not been recovering very well, but I can tell it's happening even if it is at an extremely slow rate. Anyway, yesterday I expressed that I needed to feel like he wanted to be affectionate with me more than just when he wanted to have sex. I knew as soon as I said it that he took it that I wanted him to decrease sexual attention, so I repeated twice that I did not want that to decrease, I wanted his other affection to increase. He did become more affectionate in a sweet way. This morning I woke up to him telling me that he M in bed next to me during the night. I asked him why he didn't wake me up, he said he felt bad about waking me up. Him being frisky with himself and me waking up in the middle of the night (often starting in his sleep) is nothing new. I told him I knew he would take what I said yesterday wrong and I shouldn't have said it. He said he shouldn't have told me because now we both felt like crap. This was all said super calmly, btw. I feel like he should let me know how he is feeling, even if I am asleep. Shoot, I wake him up for some sometimes. I don't really have a problem with M other than it's a sexual experience without me and the more frequent the more you would get used to it and seek it rather than intimacy. I feel like he should try with me and if not he DEFINITELY SHOULD TELL me after the fact, otherwise I feel like we could be heading down a bad path again. I just don't know how to make him see even if it sucks for a minute, I wasn't mad and it was over super quick. Way better than being sneaky. I am starting to feel like I'm not allowed to feel how I feel.