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Advice on how to counter/deal with thoughts and the physical response?

Discussion in 'Porn Addiction' started by Deleted Account, Oct 10, 2019.

  1. I find that every time a thought pops up, I ignore it, let it pass, or think about something else. Yet no matter how much I control my thoughts, there's still this feeling in my chest/body that wants me to reset. And then I think "Why is that feeling there... Oh right because I want to act out."

    I know for a fact, every single time, I feel guilty and miserable for resetting and I truly hate the feeling. But in the heat of the moment, my mind doesn't listen and wants me to act out. The physical feeling can sometimes get out of hand, where I can't focus on what I'm doing because it's eating away at my thoughts

    Any advice on how to counter this? Taking a walk or anything physical is extremely effective, but I'm looking for something indoors when it's raining or poor weather outside, or when it's really late at night and taking a walk might not be the best idea. I just need something to counter the physical aspect... the body's excitement/reaction to acting out, if that makes sense.

    Also, is meditation helpful for the heat of the moment? I was always skeptical because I feel like the last thing I want to do when my body is excited is to be alone, motionless, with my thoughts. Just curious

    Thanks to all replies !
     
  2. mike14500

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    That's a tough one but what has worked for me was avoiding the environment where these urges tend to rise up. In my case, being alone in my room brings upon feelings of loneliness and drives me to relapse. As a result I try to spend as much time out of my room as possible. Also since it is quite hard for me at the moment to cope with negative emotions, I've done the next best thing and have completly pornproofed my laptop. I've noticed the intensity of urges that arise while on my laptop are negligible compared to the past since obtaining porn is impossible. Right now the biggest struggle is my phone and i'm looking for ways to distance myself from it. Good luck!
     
  3. This is complex.
    It could be biological issue, that results in altered brain activity.
    It can also be behavioral pattern.

    You have to clearly define what triggers the event, if issue is biological it is going to be more consistent, not related as much to what you are doing.
    If issue is behavioral - it will happen as results of situations you are in.

    Your first step is figuring out the cause.
     

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