I'm with sadgirl on that part. Cruel doesn't mean it's not true. It's protecting addiction. I woud and I definitely take the same strategy for someone with food addiction. I'm actually loosing weight and if I would get too soft and say, meh, I gained weight cause of that and try to overanalyze how food addiction works I would go nowhere. Keep calm, accept the truth, even if it's harsh and do whatever you can to focus on a better way. And every addiction is cover for over problems. I would judge both and exactly it is what I do. I gained weight during pregnancy, my so had porn addiction before. Now our sex life is almost dead, he makes reboot and I'm loosing weight. And accually I found it liberating to think that way, that there is part of me to blame for it, cause I can do something about it. But of course a lot of his blame and he also works on it. I don't really get why fat people stay fat and noone can say that it's not ok, especially husband or wife. It's not helping anyone. The same with porn.