advice?

Everyone has to find out for themselves what their limits are. I am not you and you are not me!
I can watch movies with sex scenes, but maybe you can't, only you can determine that.
Determine your triggers and then avoid them like the plague!

 

Listen my friend, don't make a vow like that. It won't help.

I can tell you are desperate for a reboot. We've all been through the relapse cycle.

But there is one piece of advice that helped me build my current streak.

One day at a time.

Don't build up expectations, don't mentally punish yourself, don't feel guilty, don't carry the emotional burden of failure, don't harm your self-esteem.

Just say, "today, I will do whatever it takes to avoid PMO."

When you say that, and you might have to say it 10-20 or more times in a day,
think about going to bed, turning the light off, knowing you did not use PMO all day.

Because that is the finish line: the day's end.

Anytime you get tempted, stop what's going on, wait for the feeling to pass.

It will pass.

Then just think about making it through THAT DAY.

Don't take it any further.

Because here is the deal on 50 days. 50 days will never mean squat if you can't get there. Right?

And also, 50 days doesn't mean squat if the quality is crap, meaning that you are peeking at porn, peeking at p-subs, fantasizing all the time, edging and plotting making approaches or other sexual behaviors.

The reboot is ideally a long period away from sexual stimulation, from dopamine.

You need to focus your time and energies either on school, on work or on a hobby that doesn't involve sex.

Then as you build the habit of completing a clean day, you will get deeper into the reboot automatically.

 

Here's an advice. How about you go out there and try to meet a nice girl, start seeing her and at some point just have sex with her? It's a very primordial urge down there in your willie my friend... and it's all about mating with a female. You know?
Or if you already have a girl/woman what so ever, just copulate with her. This is what i have been doing over two decades already. Well, i've been fapping to porn also. My reboot started 12.12.21 and since i've been breeding with my lady like crazy coz fapping isn't the option anymore..

Humping with a real girl/woman is fucking sweet, and i HIGHLY recommend it to you all. Even if you're in a flatline with zero libido. Women know how to sweet talk and make your head spin..

 

The fantasies come out because of momentum, or inertia. Once you stop feeding the brain the P-video content it will try and fill itself with other sources, i.e. memory, hence the fantasies. Don't be afraid of the fantasies. Let them operate "in the background". Keep doing what it is you do during your natural day. You can think of them as a simple buzz in the background like a refrigerator. The fantasies aren't you. They are just what is in your memory. Let them be and they will eventually leave you be. The tie between you and the fantasies will slowly be weakened. It takes time, but it is worth it.

Also, the following advice I'm quoting is not-so-good. It might be outright wrong, but I don't think in terms of strict right or wrong.

This only changes the dependence of the addict. What needs to happen is that you need to find worth in yourself. Addiction means you haven't been able to grow as a human. A set partner isn't an antidote, and should not be viewed in that light. What happens when you break up or things get rough? You immediately go back to the soothing relief of P, which is not helping overall.