Afraid of sex after 4 years of masturbation

Discussion in 'Rebooting in a Relationship' started by Beard_Man, Jan 25, 2020.

  1. Beard_Man

    Beard_Man New Fapstronaut

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    Hello guys, i am new here. I will share my story too.
    I am almost 22 years old male. And my story began late in my life when i was 17 years old.
    You know, i am only child of my mother and my father died early. So when i went to puberty and when it was traditional time to start some sexual staff i was not ready. I had some questions which i wanted to be answered but i was shy. When my mates talked about how much they masturbate and when they masturbated last time i was lying that i did. But when i was 16 years old. I met a girl and we fallen in love with each other. Then we kissed and so on(not sex) dry humped and you know the deal yeah? One day and i now the day it was 26th of january 2016 i first masturbated on porn and from that i became addicted. But not on porn, it was masturbation. I was like a fuckin maniac who was masturbating 5-6 time a day‍♂️First it was nothing me and my lover already started first masturbating each other, then oral sex and so on. But i never stopped masturbating excessively. Then the day come when we had sex(it was first time for both of us) a mistake. Then started problems with relationship and 1 year ago we broke up. Then started a new wave of masturbation. I watched porn too sometimes but most of the time i masturbated on pictures. Now i am on my 15th day of not masturbating it is the longest streak. Max was 7 days and on the 8th i was starting masturbation without cumming and on about day 9 i was cuming and everything was starting again. Now i am clean 15 day nofap.I dont have urge to masturbate at all. yes i want to cum, but not with masturbation i want a girl and real sex, I also noticed that i became better talking with girls in life and in social media too. AND HERE STARTS THE PROBLEM, you know, i am not an ugly loser guy and never was like that in public. So yes i have a chance to get girl for example today too but i have insecurities having bad sex with her, how i had it with my girlfriend and i think it is one of the reasons why we broke up. I dont have short, thin newborn penis or something like that but i am afraid, afraid of failure with girl, Cumming too fast or smth like that. What i have to do?please give some advice.

    thank you! Best wishes to all of you!
     
  2. Faceplanter

    Faceplanter Fapstronaut

    Same fears as every guy.

    When you get there, just tell the girl.you aren't experienced and focus on her enjoyment and you'll be fine.

    Deal with any problems with first with the mantra of "practice makes perfect" and specific issues if that doesn't work. But don't worry about problems that haven't happened yet!
     
  3. DannyCool

    DannyCool Fapstronaut

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    You are so blessed to find Nofap and the lady you meet will also be blessed. Keep going.
     

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