I don't know if there's any point in me answering it because maybe the thread has moved past this but I will anyway - I find scenario interesting and challenging. Scenario one: I wouldn't be happy... Chances are if she's a camgirl her videos would be all over the internet... In someway they're like porn stars. I do think she's coming across as being somewhat arrogant by saying she knows I won't leave her because no knows that. Her addiction to attention would be alarming. But wouldn't I pick up that she is arrogant and attention seeking before marriage? I know sometime love can be blind but I would like to think I would end it before it came to marriage since I find arrogance and the need for attention as rather unattractive. But anyway if I didn't pick up on it... Well if she wasn't arrogant then I would still marry as long as she deals with problem. But if she is arrogant I would end it since her arrogance would get in the way of her making positive changes in her life. Scenario two: I've said this before on this thread but I find it very alarming that people have sex after two weeks of dating, for me that is way too soon. IMO it should be a minimum of eight months until having sex but I might be willing to compromise on six but never two weeks. In fact waiting until marriage is even better than the eight months. So it wouldn't be all that concerned that she isn't having sex with me by then. My ex was abused by her step father so I may pick up on signs that she was raped... I'm no expert so maybe she would respond differently to the rape but if she ends up saying things like, "Go and find another girl" or "I don't deserve you so why don't you just leave me" or "Stop saying you love me, I know you don't" I will begin to wonder if something really bad had happened to her. That might cause me to end it because while it might seem cruel, you're fighting a losing battle when someone has such a low view of their self. Love of a SO is never enough to overcome such deep pain. But if there were no signs and she told me on about the rape a week before the wedding I don't think I wouldn't be mad, her actions are kind of understandable. I plan to only start dating again until I reach a certain milestone in recovery, I will only get to that milestone by my developing self control/discipline, so by the time I get to my wedding I think I'll have enough control and discipline to not have sex with my wife for 3 or 4 years. If I don't marry her because she won't have sex with me I never loved her in the first place and in the scenario it says I love her Scenario three: I think this is the worse scenario of the three. It's a problem because she's going on dating sites. I would chose the cam girl over this kind of women because this just could lead to adultery. I would tell her it's good she recognizes it's a problem but we need to take a break so she can deal with the problem. I do value honesty but I understand fear. I would never think to myself how could she do that or she an evil person. I think life is less black and white and more grey. I don't think people do bad things for the sake of doing bad things, they do it because of pain. I believe in the saying: hurt people, hurt people. All three scenarios consist of broken women who shouldn't be dating in the first place. They all need to heal from their wounds. I remember Holly Wagner once saying*, 'When you get married two become one but how can you become one when you're only half of a person'? I got annoyed when I heard her say that because I was (and still am) a broken person. I wanted to be in relationship so I got in one with my ex who was just as broken as me. Eventually it ended because, at the end of the day, we didn't love ourselves like we loved each other. Stuff had happened in our pasts and we both had never recovered from it. I really do think before dating everyone should ask themselves: where am I broken and how do I fix it? Then work on themselves until they heal and don't start dating until they heal or at least start to heal. For us PMA I think it's best we don't date until we've at least started to dig up the root of our addiction. It's great if you've gone 60 or 90 days PM free but that doesn't mean you've dug up the roots of your PMA. You can stop looking at porn but still have the mentality of a porn addict. I'm not speaking as someone who's in a healthy place yet but as someone who knows they need to heal. Personally I won't be dating until some roots get up rooted. Sorry my post my of sort of gone off topic. But Anna's scenarios got me thinking. *Can't remember the quote word for word but it was along the lines of what I wrote.