After NoFAP If I Can't Get A Hooker Then I'm Screwed

Discussion in 'Problematic Sexual Behavior' started by AThinkingGuy, Jul 10, 2019.

Can I Safely Return Back To Using Prostitutes For The Rest Of My Life After I Finish My Reboot?

Poll closed Jul 20, 2019.
  1. No it's the same as Porn And Masturbation

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  2. Yes, As long as you're safe, then it's the best option

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    13.2%
  1. ironmaing

    ironmaing Fapstronaut

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    I understand this isn’t the actual topic of this conversation. But can legal
    Prostitution help fix PIED enough to have sex with SO?

    My SO is tired of waiting and suggest sleeping with other women to get confidence up. Did it work for you guys?

    Women are generally hard work, but you can find one that completes you. If she likes what you like, life it so much more fulfilling when in good company. I don’t say jump into the next relationship but see what’s out there. Also, if you are so worried about getting hurt, I’d suggest seeing a counsellor to help you deal with unresolved issues.
     
  2. PeterJL

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    1. I would suggest starting a new thread for this.
    2. If you can't get it up for your SO how would you get it up for another woman?
     
  3. ironmaing

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  4. kbmn78

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    If you want to have sex with prostitutes go ahead and do so, but it seems to me like you would be open to a relationship if you met the right woman. I know this is not what you want to hear, but that’s my interpretation.

    Regardless, there will always be risks in life. If you’re sex life is prostitutes and especially if you can become wealthy, you risk catching diseases, getting robbed, and false accusations.
     
  5. AThinkingGuy

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    The risk of false allegations from a prositute, being greater or anywhere close to the risk of false allegations from a non prositute?

    You risk getting robbed with a prositute, but you don't getting married or though pregnancy and then family/divorce court?

    While most prostitutes are very serious about condom usage, many normal women aren't, but you're risk of getting an std is greater with a prostitutes?

    How many women and relationships have you been in?
     
  6. PeterJL

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    What exactly is a "non prostitute"? The alternative to not having sex with a prostitute isn't having sex with completely random, sketchy strangers. The more likely alternative would simply be not having sex for a while, until the right person comes along.

    And if the opportunity for risky sex with a completely random stranger does arise- the fact you also had sex with a prostitute isn't likely to stop you from partaking. Maybe your sexual appetite will be sated for 30 minutes, tops. But the chances are pretty slim you would pick the exact thirty minutes when you would otherwise have been tempted.

    Learn self-control. The risk of false allegations are pretty low when you are celibate or when you are in a proper relationship with someone trustworty.

    With a prostitute you risk NEVER having children, or worse, never getting to know your children. Avoiding relationships to avoid divorce court is like being unemployed to avoid getting fired.

    Who is this "normal" woman who has STDs and prevents you from wearing a condom? Again, the alternative is not random sex with weird strangers.

    For close to two decades now, one. It's going very well.
     
  7. majorfiddle23

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    Heyy man! No offence but after reading a little bit of this post I didn’t had to read anymore.

    Dating real women is very important for your sexuality as a man. So go out bro. Don’t be a guy who says he’s been burned a lot before and because of that he won’t do relationships, it’s not mature.
     
  8. WalkingForward

    WalkingForward Fapstronaut

    Using prostitutes is clearly a horrible idea for you. If you don't want a relationship, then celibacy is the best option.
     
  9. That's a really evil turn of events. :(

    The only advice I can give from my own perspective is that you destroy more of yourself and your life, if you put everything into avoiding being harmed this way (again).

    Instead I would watch out for red flags and take calculated risks, because the "safe" alternative is even worse.
     
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  10. llortaton

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    Indeed. Prostitutes can easily give you a severe STD, which you will have to live with, for the rest of your life.
     
  11. PeterJL

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    I'm sorry, brother. It's been more than two decades since my accusation.

    It still stings a bit, and for many years I couldn't even talk to girls. When I did, I couldn't talk directly about sex. I had to use euphemisms for everything for a very long time. Which ironically may have seriously hampered my ability to communicate consent.

    Maybe you think that if everyone is going to believe the worst about you there is no point in trying to be anything else.

    Well, I believe you, and I just hope I can get you to believe in yourself again. Know that you weren't the guy they said you were. So give yourself permission to live. To hold your head up.

    By the way, it's day 31. We're over the hump. Celebrate that.
     
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  12. AThinkingGuy

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    Dude I was accussed by a member of staff at my university after she fucked up my class schedule and then made a false claim to cover it up, yes I am fucking serious. Then her incompetent ass got fired after an army of students reported. You've gotta be insane to avoid false flags. They use false allegations for a variety of reasons, and to this day the school won't even tell me what I was accused of lmfao. You are so wrong on this one, and this is someone I had spoken with a million times. Bro you have no ideas what women are capable of.
     
  13. Survivalist

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    All, please keep responses respectful.
     
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  14. AThinkingGuy

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    Wow thanks for sharing. Damn another member of the false accusations club huh. Men who have never been accused can never understand the pain, and shame, and anger you feel. It's little a form of rape for a man, because you are violated in so many ways. You never entirely get your life back, and it haunts you forever. You never forget the person, you never forget their face. It stays with you always.
     
  15. PeterJL

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    You never forget their face, but I'll bet you never got a chance to talk about it with them.
    I would add paranoia, confusion, and misplaced guilt to the list. Loneliness, rejection, and isolation. I've had other traumatic experiences, but nothing compares to the way an accusation gaslights you.
    By the by, I've simply given up on calling my accusation false. I just call it an accusation. I was 13.
    I get why you go to prostitutes. Why 100 approaches is such a big deal. It's probably 98 more than I ever made without serious cajoling. It's not logical but I get it.
    All I can tell you is, it does get better. It takes a lot of time, and maybe it never really goes away, but it does get better.
    And there is tremendous power in forgiving. Noone can ever take away your ability to forgive.
     
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  16. Anubis Rises

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    i wouldnt allow woman to have that kinda power over me that i choose to be single due to what they did, we men are famous for making these grave mistakes, thinking a woman is to great for us, so much higher above us that we dont ask them to mate with us or a past female emotionally burned us so we stray an submit to them by staying single due to it, we must do what gods do and forgive , create an love,my past females i was with cheated on me, i forgive them, they where addicted to M addicted to S i pray they find the light that ive found, dont let that love in your heart be another ship wreck underneath the bluest ocean filled with undiscovered treasure chest ,love its in us to give, the ones we feel dont deserve it , need it the most
     
  17. kbmn78

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    The point I’m making is there will always be risks in life. I have heard a men who got robbed and killed by a prostitute. Anything can happen.

    Also, people don’t have to get married anymore. Lots of people are not getting married anymore and are having ‘life partnerships’.

    I’ve had sex with over 20 women. And each one I’ve used a condom and they were cool with it. I have only not used a condom with two women after trust had been established. I haven’t had a std.

    I’ve been in 4 long term relationships. And few short term/long distance relationships. Most of the women I’ve been with are good people, they are not perfect, but overall they were caring, loving, fun going women.

    When I date, anytime I see a red flag, I’m out.

    Again, if you choose to live a life only having sex with prostitutes then by all means go for it, but I don’t believe that is an emotionally sustainable lifestyle for most people.
     
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  18. beat432

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    Congrats on your 44 days, your ultimate goal is to be happy, remember that, Even If you are lonely
     
  19. WalkingForward

    WalkingForward Fapstronaut

    I don't think we should strive to be happy. Because happiness is very fleeting. Life contains many hardships and we need more than just moments of happiness or pleasure to motivate us to get through them.

    We need meaning in life. Without meaning, we become miserable. Pursuing meaning is valuable beyond mere happiness or pleasure.

    We should strive for mastery and greatness, we should strive to make the world a better and more beautiful place. Degrading oneself by paying for shameful sex, that cannot be part of living a meaningful life.
     
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  20. DeepParkWater

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    This sounds like trying to solve a problem with an even bigger problem. If you have ED and are trying to reboot why not eat her out on a regular basis, use sex toys, as a last resort use medication SPARINGLY. What i mean by that is.make a schedule and promise only to use it at most once every 2 weeks during which time you also take care of her sexually in other ways.

    She has her needs but this way youre forming a compromise instead of destroying a monogomous relationship because that has other intended consequences too...... By that logic you have to be willing to allow her to sleep with other men if you didnt get it already
     

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