After NoFap, will you masturbate?

Discussion in 'Rebooting - Porn Addiction Recovery' started by seth, Jan 4, 2016.

After NoFap, do you intend to masturbate occasionally?

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  1. Dgmili93

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    As much as PMO is bad, I think that frequent MO is more or less same shit. It makes people isolated, it's a bad way to let sexual desire explode. I haven't been that type of P addicted who watches P hours per day. Yet I still MOed very much over photos, sexual fantasies and shit. It eventually became antistressant but not arousal. Sometimes I felt energy drained, I fapped to sleep better, I came to a point in which I fapped alone in the dark in the middle of the night ruining my sleep just because I wanted feel hard dick in my hand and thinking of submitting naked chics. It really depauperates our fantasy, it becomes mecanical. I'm also a shy guy and during my teen I often wasn't able to pursue a girl, I just thought 'mmm she looks good', went home and MOed thinking her naked, this has been large part of my sexual life.

    I don't know where this reboot will bring me to nor when, but that shit is mostly over for me.
     
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  2. mv8652

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    I agree! A man must look for things to love about fapstincence--the so-called "benefits." As he discovers more and more of them, the learns to love his fapstincence more than his former fapping. It's been my experience that, when I chose to experiment with MO after the end of a long challenge/reboot/streak, I very soon realized how much I missed fapstinence and went right back to into it. As of now, I say that I'm fapstinent in hard mode indefinitely, and I'm enjoying the heck out of it. Will I ever give myself another orgasm? I plan to go for at least a year this time before deciding. By then, I might have lost all interest in fapping.
     
  3. SnowWhite

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    Yeah that's great! I know that feeling, you feel so powered and full of life.

    That's why I say prefer to say "freedom mode" instead of "hard mode". Because it is not hard at all! It's joy!
    The former "urge" has converted to a powerful engine which is boosting you and making your life full of joy!
     
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  4. seth

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    After 90, 100, or 1000 days I plan on making an epic-ly long post summarizing all my findings and opinions about PMO. I'm going to quote you on that --> Hard mode should be called Freedom mode.
     
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  5. ned123

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    On the other hand - have you thought that the lady might feel real special and even a bit smug if her man boy can't help himself but lose control after 5 or 10 mins. And then - after you laugh together and let her know how great she is - you get yourself busy again - take your time with some patient foreplay (which she will be adoring) then when YOU are ready - you will be able to bang her for as long as you like!! Honest! :) just make sure you are well rested and haven't been drinking too much alcohol though - it'll be worth it.
     
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  6. seth

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    Totally agree - it depends what a person's behavior with porn and masturbating are. Some can MO once a week and be fine, while some might MO everyday to replace the lack of porn. I've found when I've cut out porn but not MO, that I'm somewhere in between.
     
  7. seth

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    This is exactly what I had in mind. I think I would preface any sex with quickly saying that "I made a new years resolution to quit porn and masturbation, so excuse me if I'm a bit sensitive/quick". Foreplay and then round two seems like a great way to go!
     
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  8. ned123

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    Mate - that totally makes sense to me- the bit C S Lewis said about masturbating involving idealising women so that real women won't then easily make the grade!! Your comment is a bit of a eureka moment for me personally. I've got to get out there and sample some real women again. Masturbating isnt now an option for me. It's killing me - no not literally -but my gonads are throbbing, and I'm having to keep so busy to keep my head - eg three spinning classes in 3 days!! LOL! And I'm finding myself making all sorts of arrangements that will bring me into contact with the fairer sex. Thank you dude!
     
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  9. ned123

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    Totally man - girls love it when your honest with them - and when you reluctantly show a bit of vulnerability. But not too much! Second round - hard as you like - puts you right back in the driving seat. And if you're tired just chill - she's there because she likes you - cuddle up and tell her how special she is. You'll probably drop off to sleep and get jiggy after a good nights sleep!
     
  10. seth

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    This excites me. I'm so pumped. Life is awesome.
     
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  11. NoBrainer

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    5 or 10 mins?! I was thinking more like 5 or 10 seconds! :eek:
     
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  12. ned123

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    Hey Dj I'm totally with you on this MO shit. It becomes a bit like comfort food - and essentially actually prevents you from doing what you're made for - which is getting out there and being with a nice girl. We all have individual hang ups about this...! But hell man - none of us guys are perfect - and more to the point - neither are the ladies!! Beautiful in there own sweet ways though! and the ones who think they are perfect - as the Beiber says - can just go and love themselves!!! Dj there a little honey out there for you - you need to put your courage in your back pack and go and see!! I'll be doing the same thing. Making a fool of myself too no doubt!!
     
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  13. ned123

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    LOL! Even more reason to laugh together then and have another bash :) that is comical mate. LOL!
     
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  14. ned123

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    So Al - how do you orgasm and not ejaculate? I can't imagine myself not shooting my load. Is it a technique you've somehow learned? Share the wealth my friend!!! I'm up for multiple orgasms with the right lady! :)
     
  15. seth

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    @AlltheRageBackHome answered that:
     
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  16. TheHeroOfCourage

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    You are right. Sex drive is such a powerful force within us, that once it becomes corrupted, it's seriously hard to escape from. This is what porn has done to us all. Except, unlike the majority of people, we are taking a stand to remain firm in escaping the darkness that porn has destroyed us with. I look back and become so disgusted with how I objectified women, and my perverse desires of the past. I'm still recovering, and boy, those flashes of fantasy I get do nothing but scare me.
     
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  17. ned123

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    Cheers Seth - I will take a look. But I guess just one orgasm would be well - AMAZING right now! :-/ I'm pretty sure reading about multiple orgasms is going to reek havoc with my noPMO 10 day celebrations! I will have to put it on my bucket list for now! Something to try with my next girlfriend:)
     
  18. seth

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    Amen
     
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  19. jeffnofapp

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    I think M is what got most of us into trouble in the first place. I think the best thing is to never do it again. It's not like food or water. We can live without M. A healthy sex life, where sex itself is the way we get off...is probably the right long term approach. I'm married and totally avoided sex so that I could enjoy the maximum amount of PMO. Which is clearly why I am in a recovery program and NoFap.
     
  20. SnowWhite

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    Ha, thank you ; ) I read my own post right now, and it's really good to have this list of action items upfront again and again.
    The essence is really to make all these habits a daily routine, a fixed part of our life. Always live in the present and just do. This is the key to a fulfilled life. Then, the moment we die, even when it should come right now, we should be able to say "it was great".
     
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