Alcohol turns me into an idiot

Discussion in 'Problematic Sexual Behavior' started by RandomUsername123, Aug 17, 2020.

  1. RandomUsername123

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    Not while I'm drinking, but the day after I just don't think straight, I'll send sexual messages to strangers with no thought of consequences. Then when it wears off the depression hits at how stupid I've been.

    Over and over again.

    I'm fine if I drink in the house too, I'll have a couple and never feel too bad in the morning, but there's something about being out that makes you drink faster and not know when to stop.

    I'm sick of resetting myself all the time
     
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  2. WalkingForward

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    Well then stop drinking or at least change your drinking habits and set boundaries for yourself.
     
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  3. RestlessEngineer

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    Hey man,
    Look it is not just you lots of people do this, i for example have the same problem when i'm out with friends.
    Most of the time it will all be good, but when we go out to a club or a bar and meet new people the drinks just keep coming faster and faster. Sometimes i can't remember what the hell i did those evenings and i see pictures of myself the next day that make me want to crawl in a hole and dissapear forever.

    Personally i have had enough of it and decided to stop my drinking almost completely, maybe you should do the same if it bothers that much. Trust me i know it won't be easy but it will be worth it when you had a great night out and don't feel shitty in the morning.

    A bit blunt, but yeah it is the most effective way to feel better.
     
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  4. RandomUsername123

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    I generally have, I don't go to late bars or clubs anymore... Rarely even go out with my friends tbh just have a few in the house where I can control it. Just the weekend I slipped back because it was the first time going out since the lockdown. I didn't stay out too late either just the next day I turned into a moron.

    It's just frustrating more than anything else, when you've made good progress at things and then it just knocks you back totally. Think I will stay in for a while now
     
  5. I feel you brother! I sadly made the same mistakes and relapsed the day after being out. It is indeed very frustrating. While I think you should also moderate your alcohol consumption, another thing you could try is to declare hangover days as "mobile and computer free" days. Meaning you leave your phone and computer turned off in order to prevent you to relapse or make stupid desicions. Would that work for you? :)
     
  6. Yeah, one of the many reasons I hate alcohol is because people do such stuff while on it.
     
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  7. RestlessEngineer

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    Just curious did you get really drunk going out or does this happen every time you drink while being out.
    If it happends every time then there are only 2 solutions:
    1.stop drinking altogether to avoid the next morning depression.

    2. If you drink tell a friend to keep an eye on you and to not let you drink more than a few beers.
     
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  8. Fetishaddict333

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    Hi there,

    This is my first time posting. I cannot believe how strongly I relate to the shared experiences in this forum, but no more than your story here. I can fully sympathize with you.

    I have found a direct relationship with heavy drinking, depression, and relapse into masturbation addiction. I get so high from drinking with my friends that the withdrawal from that (and physical hangover) sends me into a deep depression. I am usually foggy, unmotivated, and turn to unhealthy comforts like binge eating fast food and my masturbation addiction. Nothing is more damaging than when I am masturbating ALL day to stave off my depression and hangover, just trying to overload my brain. These are the days that I even injure my penis masturbating for prolonged sessions.

    Hangover days have broken me after weeks of control over my addiction. I can say that cutting drinking has really helped, but recently I have fallen back into bad habits with COVID and being way more idle than normal. I need to cut it again, today.

    Thank you for sharing.

    Shawn
     
  9. RandomUsername123

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    I was recommended and app to download called Stay Focused on a different thread and I have just downloaded it today and it seems perfect for this. Set apps like snapchat, twitter and instagram so I cant even use them if I try. Loads of options too where you can set different day usages. Then you can put it on with a password or a timer so if its not set and I wake up with these urges I can put it on. Doesnt even let you into the settings so I would imagine it is very hard to turn off and not like other stuff Ive seen where you just ask for more time! Fingers crossed this could be something to get past this. If I wake up and have these controls set and I spent all day hacking into them then I really have a problem!!!!
     
  10. RandomUsername123

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    I tend to just get this way when I got out with guy friends, which doesnt happen much these days - Maybe once every few months! Which makes it hard as I dont want to not go out, and I have fun when Im out - Ive went through stages of being really controlled drinking when Im out too. I think I just wanted to go crazy with it being the first time properly out in so long. Daft I know
     
  11. RandomUsername123

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    Its the worst! I never thought about it like being on a high and then in the morning when your down and feeling ill you use it to try and make you feel better but that could be it! I was so drained on Sunday, couldnt even focus on the tv so just put porn on all day. Messaging random girls anonymously to get some kind of connection and that sexual high from them. It just messes you up for days, its Monday night now and I havent done any exercise, Ive barely left my room and Ive had half a take away and a sandwich today. Only now am I getting some energy back up to cook something properly and snap out of feeling sorry for myself. And the sleep too was so bad last night, probably part due to alcohol and part due to depression that Ive acted in such a way again. Just think to myself I wouldnt act this way now so why do it then? Id be messaging girls Im not even attracted to or I dont even know what they look like or who they are just to get some kind of satisfaction. I hate myself for it, hopefully Ill be able to get a good sleep tonight and try and move on again. Need to think about limiting myself from being in situations where I know I will get too drunk and make me feel this way again! Thankfully there wont be another night out for months!!!
     
  12. Fetishaddict333

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    Yes, I completely understand your dilemma. I will have terrible eating binges when hungover as well. I will lose track of my workout regimen as well because of a hangover, sometimes for 2 days. That all adds to the self-loathing and further dive into masturbation.

    My main addiction is chatting. I literally go through an introduction and some meager small talk about my fetishes, sometimes with the intent of ordering a custom video. I get a high from that and it will distract me all day. My wife will notice as well and has even caught me in the past, but I still have a huge urge to do it.

    Shawn
     
  13. dont drink.
     
  14. RandomUsername123

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    I need to control it for sure. Lockdown was great, I think I was drinking more days but I would never get drunk drunk, just have like 2 or 3 on the night and then feel fine the next day. I know I can't handle these big drinking sessions, I have to stop them
     
  15. RandomUsername123

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    It's crazy how we go back to it. I did a thread on my Snapchat addictions and people were saying its just the rush when you get a bit from someone like a casino rush. For all the people you chat to and nothing happens, the one time it does gives you that high you've been wanting. But it's totally not worth it!!
     
  16. verbeek75

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    Stopping drinking is the best you can do to start with, stop before you become a alcoholic, now you should be able to stop by yourself if you become alcoholic you will need professional help. Besides all the problems that alcohol brings. Can't you go out and just drink a soda, I used to go out and yes drink way to much, having horrible hangovers in my early 20's, but late 20's I was so fed up with myself of drinking way to much, we are talking like up to 20 pints a night, my grandfather died from alcoholism and I just got mad at myself so I just switched to drinking soda's basically maybe have 1 beer when I get to get in the mood and be easier to talk to people but then only drink 7-up all night and before going home I might have 1 more beer, but most of the times I just would stick to 7-up or Sprite, occasional cola or get some still water. Although my friends at first found it stupid but after a while they were just used to me drinking 7-up all night. So for real well over a decade of going out and drinking of almost 7-up only. And at home I barely drink, normally only water. My last hangover was 13 years ago and it was also my last.
     
  17. RandomUsername123

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    I'm not gonna become an alcoholic, Its been 3 days now and I have no desire to drink again. 99% of the time when I drink I don't have hangovers because I stop after a couple. It's just these rare occasions when I go out with friends I get too carried away with it all and have too much. We usually meet up and go to gigs on weekdays which is much better for me as I limit myself to 4 drinks on a work night. I probably just need to not go out with them on a Friday or Saturday because I always live in the moment then and forget how bad it makes me feel afterwards...
     
  18. verbeek75

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    Living in the moment is not always bad, just at least try to drink some water or a cola in between drinks, or drink slower and skip some rounds here and there.
     
  19. invest in your health get into joging hiking cyling or swiming, you'll feel like a new person.
    if your a messy drunk dont drink, you let the demons out and your life is in their hands.
     
  20. RandomUsername123

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    I do that stuff, now I'm back to normality I've been going on runs again. I'm not even a messy drunk really we just went out, sat around a table all night then walked home. It's just the mornings after I can't control. Feels like I have no blocker, like now if I have the idea to watch porn and message girls to try and sext with them in my head I'll be thinking well that's a stupid idea, just go out or jack off to yourself girls aren't interested in that kinda stuff and you'll just end up getting into trouble if your friends and family found out. But when I'm hungover it's like fuck all common sense everyone should be into getting off it's fun, why not message as many random people as you can ones bound to be into it! It's so retarded. I'm hoping that with this stay focused app i can stay in control. If I'm having some drinks just set the app off to block everything that I would have regrets for and if I need to have a release I'll need to grab my laptop and use that which is no biggy I won't really have much regret doing that, would be a waste of a day but at least I'm not harming anyone else with my stupidity. You can even block access to your phone entirely for a few hours until I get it out of my system and be normal again
     

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