Last night was rough. It was his birthday yesterday. We were on our way home from dinner at which he had a few beers. Often times when he drinks it makes him rather combative and argumentative. I don't remember how it came up exactly but he started talking about sex and brought up wanting oral sex. I've been avoiding this 1) since finding out about his last relapse (though I couldn't exactly say why) and 2) because I've been sick and my throat hurts. What really bothered me is the "joke" he made next. He said it has been a long time since he has cum anywhere other than in my vagina (can I say p***y on here?). At first I wasn't sure what he was implying but then I realized he was talking about cumming on my face. This is a fetish of his that I have always known and occasionally indulged in but I REALLY don't like it and he knows I don't like it. I was hurt that he brought it up and so I decided to ask him what it is that he likes about it. He got angry and said, "You can't ask a guy why he likes what he likes," though I don't see why not and he was unable to answer that question either. He asked why I like sex and I said because it feels good, provides intimacy and builds bonds. I told him I don't feel like cumming on someone's face does any of those things. No answer. So, upset about the fact that he brought it up in the first place and then further hurt by his response to my inquiry I went to the bedroom and started crying. He followed me and asked, "What's wrong?" but with a tone of obligation, not genuine concern. I told him it bothered me that he continues to bring that up over the years. No, not frequently, but enough. Apparently since I have given in in the past he thought that meant I like it? I told him I feel obligated to do it occasionally because I know it's something he likes even though I abhor it. He just kept yelling and gave a very sarcastic apology. It was awful. I feel like he only brought it up because it was his birthday and he felt entitled to something "extra". Needless to say, we spent the rest of the night apart even though it was his bday AND one of the rare nights our daughter actually went to bed early. Ugh.