We've been recovering for over 250 days now. A lot of therapy and communication has happened. I feel I have a pretty good grasp now on the various traumas I've caused my wife. Eminent boundaries were identified and drawn. I respect those and understand for her and my safety why they are in place. My question is how do I handle triggers she experiences that I don't even know? I try and be more sensitive in my decisions always thinking how it may affect her. But often times things I think are no big deal seem to set her off. We identify these behaviors as triggers for her and add them to the list. But until I already screwed up, I do not know. I'm in a constant state of apologies. It feels like we are never progressing. There has to be a healthier way. Thanks for listening.