Almost 90 days of Nofap and no benefit ?

[Vinz9328]

Hey guys,
I started Nofap during October and have few relapses during this period (I fap 3 times during the last 90 days, my longest streak is 60 days).
And still i don't feel the benefit that others have, sure I feel more energetic, my mind is clearer, I feel more focused.
And it is also true that i start taking care of myself, going to the gym, dressing better ect...

But on the other side, i don't feel more confident around woman, i don't feel more attractive. When I go out in night club, I still have this social anxiety and cannot hold conversation with a women.
All of my friends are very social (except me) and I try to learn from them but still I am very shy and not confident about myself.

Do you have any tips ?

Thanks a lot

 

[Johnny13]

You can't say that you don't see benefits, because you already mentioned life changing benefits.
I don't think that you will get a lot of confidence on NoFap. I'd say after first week,aftee that I feel like you just hit a flat lane in confidence.

I'm also pretty shy, so the only thing to build it up is time and work. In other words you gotta go out, set a goal and practice

 

[Kligor]

sure I feel more energetic, my mind is clearer, I feel more focused.

Hi buddy you said that by yourself you have experienced some of the few benefits,much more will come with time.
If you want to be more social and be more confident and stop being shy you must take some action.I will share with you this,something might can help you:

1.Face your fears. (Afraid of speaking in public?Then do it!Afraid of trying something new?Then try it!)
2.Respect yourself.
3.Believe in yourself. (For this is most important one,always talk in yourself i can do it,that is nothing for me,i m amazing)
4.Take cold showers.
5.Start weight lifting/going to gym.(with this one your testosterone level will go higher so that is connected with confidence)
6.Never doubt in yourself and never blame yourself.

 

[pornfree4ever]

Last year, I did 4 months (120 days) of hard-mode NoFap with no relapse. The ONLY benefit I’ve had was curing my porn-induced ED. Unless there is a peer-reviewed scientific research documenting these “benefits”, take whatever you read here with a grain of salt, and no more than anecdotes.

 

[KOD19]

But on the other side, i don't feel more confident around woman, i don't feel more attractive. When I go out in night club, I still have this social anxiety and cannot hold conversation with a women.

Yeah man. I'm in the same boat. Only difference is I'm just starting out with a dedicated actually taking seriously nofap.

I learned this listening to The Mountain Top Podcast. It really helped me understand my issues when it comes to dating and approaching women. I'm usually really good with women I don't find attactive because I don't put any pressure on myself. I have a lot more fun. Say stuff I wouldn't normally say because I'm not trying to impress them. They usually end up falling for me, but it's not who I want.

John Scot on the Podcast always goes back to enjoying women for their femininity. Enjoy that they are women and focus on helping them have fun more than trying to impress them. If you're more interested in having fun that it'll be easier to contribute to the conversation and push it forward. He goes into a lot of other things too. Should definitely check out.