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Almost relapsed

Discussion in 'Porn Addiction' started by Tryingtobbetter, Jun 28, 2018.

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  1. Tryingtobbetter

    Tryingtobbetter Fapstronaut

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    Hey guys I’m a 20 year old male.. I’ve gone a little over 3 weeks without fapping and I’m starting to think what’s even the point? I feel like no woman will ever love me either way and I’ll never have sex with a woman that I’m actually really attracted to and like. I got really horny tonight and I’ve been hitting up every slutty girl I know trying to score some action. But like,I know that’s just my dick thinking. I haven’t relapsed but I’m just feeling kinda hopeless. I feel like a woman could never love or care about me. Do things really get any better after the 3 week or 1 month mark? Plz help
     
  2. "Hitting up every slutty girl I know trying to score some action." You've got to be kidding me! Why degrade yourself like that! Who's been tearing you down, brainwashing you to accept lies that you're worthless? You need to do some serious inner-cleansing with reflection, mindfulness, meditation, yoga, whatever it takes to resurrect your integrity and self-respect. Then, believe it or not, you'll be independently happy despite outer circumstances that may be less than ideal. A great way for you to build stamina is to continue the NoFap streak. As you progress, getting stronger and more self-determined, people will like your vibes and will hang out with you. One of those people may be your girlfriend, and it will be more love-based than lust-based. Forget the slutty girls! Work on yourself! Secure your happiness!
     
  3. Tryingtobbetter

    Tryingtobbetter Fapstronaut

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    Thanks a lot man. It’s mainly that I’m a nice genuine guy and I stopped sexualizing women for the longest but yet I get “curved” even when I’m not pursuing girls and just wanna talk. My whole life I’ve been rejected by girls that aren’t even out of my league and it really just kills my confidence and self image. I don’t understand why I’ve never been enough when I put 110% into being myself and being a good person. The last girl I loved was incredibly toxic and really fucked with my self esteem and she constantly parades that she has sex with other guys... tonight I was just really horny and I lost control and I feel horrible about it. Before her I was so happy and confident and she really ruined me for a while. I know my post sounds pathetic especially reading it back. I know my family and friends love me but I’m just so tired of the women in my generation. They’re so deceitful and dishonest and it disgusts me.. I think I’m just gonna focus on me and stop pursuing women all together for a while. Your advice is some of the best I’ve gotten. Much love
     
  4. The Pacific Life

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    Like you said she's really toxic and not right for you, be glad you dodged a bad one there. Focus on yourself rather than those around you it'll make things easier in the long run. The benefits do come with time it just differs from person to person. On my old account I managed about 43 days and I felt different and people had noticed some changes to. Don't let the past slow you down just try and keep on going towards your goal of recovery. I know you feel hurt I've been there to but don't generalize all women because of some bad experiences you may have had. Confidence comes with time and doing Nofap will help with that. I let some good ones get away because porn robbed me of my confidence. For the first time in years I'm talking to a girl I know and like not sure if anything will happen but we all have to step out of our comfort zones to grow. You can do this!
     
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  5. It is not like that. I think you have some psychological problems or traumas after the relationship you write about. You need to work on it simultaneously with stopping PMO.

    Why the girl you consider toxic can determine your value? You have nice friends and family. They admire you, and you still believe her not them. Why? On the other hand, she probably has some problem herself and hurting you was only the way to cope with it, just like PMO for us. It is possible that she doesn't think bad things about you, but only for some reasons lie (even if she think she doesn't) to hurt you.

    The same is for the "slutty" girls. You should not text them, because they probably have some problems similar to you and treating them in an objectified way will only hurt them. Even if they seem to enjoy it, you can make serious damage to their minds and lives. I think you should try to talk with them in a normal way, ask about their dreams and life situation. Maybe they need somebody like that instead or the next guy wanting to fuck them? Don't be just the "next guy" acting in the standard way :)

    Of course, loveisgrand write a lot of wise words I fully agree and appreciate.

    Good luck, friend!
     
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  6. Tryingtobbetter

    Tryingtobbetter Fapstronaut

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    Thank you so much you’re so helpful and encouraging! :)
     
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  7. Tryingtobbetter

    Tryingtobbetter Fapstronaut

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    You are so right. About everything. I did reset that night from Mo but I didn’t watch porn. I’m going to restart my journey tomorrow and try much harder this time. Thank you so much friend :)
     
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