Am I allowed look at a beautiful girls face

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  1. Sovereign Elder

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    Just wanna look at their faces? anything wrong with that? I can’t look at their eyebrows, their noses, their ears? Even tho I might get a little aroused, I haven’t seen a decent looking girl for MONTHS!

    This is all new to me
     
  2. Sovereign Elder

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    I google hot girls faces and I stare at it for like 5 min, I usually get my other things done like homework ,and excercise done, before doing this kind of shit. So am I allowed?
     
  3. I would definitely not recommend it. Its a psub and its messes with your mind. That kind of thing will almost certainly lead to a relapse sooner or later. Thats my opinion anyway.
     
  4. Sovereign Elder

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    I’m never going to relapse. I take cold showers I meditate and im very psyivally active. And my home is fucking boring nothing to do besides draw and work out. Now you tell me if I could relapse again. I relapsed recently and it is due to me being very happy because I made new friends so I DESERVE my happy fappy reward.
     
  5. Let me suggest the following to you:

    If you attempt to recover from too much porn, try to avoid all porn material. this means all material that works like porn for you. this is called porn substitutes or psubs here.

    if the need to masturbate gets very strong, masturbate without any visual help. The idea is that you get the habit of porn out of your mind. Using porn substitutes are an obstacle to that.

    When it comes to rewards, never reward yourself with porn. Maybe with masturbation if you must.
     
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  6. MuscularSherlockHolmes

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    If you think you've everything under control and you will never relapse... Then why bother and ask? Do whatever you want to. You'll be fine. This advice is for those who truly wanna give up PMO and are having trouble. They really need to avoid PSubs too.
     
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  7. Castielle

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    Honestly, let's take away all the "rules" of nofap for a second and just think, logically, about how damn creepy this is.

    If you dont want to be a creep, then probably stop doing that. Its weird. Sorry if that's too harsh, and I'm not judging, because I've done a lot of weird and creepy crap too. But this is not normal, healthy behavior, so whether or not you are "allowed" to do it isnt really the question you should be asking. You should be asking "is this normal and healthy behavior" and the answer to that is no.
     
  8. ClaritySeeker

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    I agree with @What I Do That Defines Me, if you really want to be serious about it, convince yourself not to tease yourself with p subs, get yourself in the mindset that you really want to do this and really dedicate yourself. It's a lot of just convincing yourself because a part of you will always say you don't have a problem. At least that's my experience
     
  9. Castielle

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    100% agreed.

    I would also say, as you went on to touch on as well, that it shouldnt be all about "will this make me relapse or not," but rather "will this make me a better, healthier, happier person or not."
     
  10. Dude I use to jerk off to fully clothed Muslim hijabi's. To see them in heels would sometimes drive me wild.

    Just generally speaking, you should get over the looks things. Don't be so sold on a girl based on looks, have a "Im not so sure" attitude. If you can do that you raise your standard because those pretty girls done nothing man. I respect a girl who goes to the gym. I met this girl the other day, hot legs, I asked her what she does for fun and she says something like "nothing really I don't do much, I just work", how fucking boring.

    I'm saying don't objectify.

    With girls in general I don't look at their bodies or flesh I look at the eyes, I wanna see the girl and its so much better bro.

    By looking at those pictures, even if you look in her eyes, you are still self satisfying yourself, it's not weird, it's not bad or not not-normal, like someone else said, but maybe to her it is or other females I don't know does one person represent all females no, but if you look at real girls in the eyes in real life it makes it more special. Looking at pictures is like masturbating because you don't need to look at real girls. Glance over and look away, or hold it on her until she looks away even better. On TV look only eyes, make it a habit.
     
  11. MuscularSherlockHolmes

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    Man you should put such details in spoiler tabs. Just to make sure nobody finds them as arousing or disturbing. Just my humble suggestion. Helps the community in a big way when one takes care of such things.
     
  12. Sovereign Elder

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    Ok so I’m not allowed to look at girl faces.
     
  13. Somanyashes

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    You must have one very powerful imagination.
     
  14. MuscularSherlockHolmes

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    This is fine... you are allowed to do that!

    This is where trouble lies. All these people replying are referring to this part of your post! Yes, you are allowed to look at beautiful girls, and no you should not have perverted thoughts while doing so. Yes you are allowed to go meet girls in public, but you are not entitled to meet beautiful girls.

    Hope you understand what I said.
     
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  15. This is your brain rationalizing w yourself. Honestly I would say it's cool if you look @ beautiful girls faces IN REAL LIFE. Hell, even talk to them
     
  16. ClaritySeeker

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    The problem is you're looking at girls faces because you're wanting to get a hard on, you are using them as sex objects and fueling your PA and in the end making it harder to reboot your mind. We're all just trying to help you see this, it's nice to get an outside perspective from multiple people all in agreement pointing out the same thing. Sometimes it's hardest to see yourself which is why you're here in the first place. My apologies if I'm too straight forward or come off as it, but I like to be just straight to the point sometimes
     
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  17. SolitaryScribe

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    Your setting yourself up for failure that way. It's like an alcoholic saying he only wants to look at the beer bottle or "just" hang out in a bar. Don't play with fire.
     
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  18. Circleinthesquare

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    Agreed, looking too long at a face or image of fully clothed woman for e.g.is just helping your brain to remember how it used to be before you gave up porn. In my experience I would say that could lead to relapse if you're not very careful. So many times I've kidded myself that it's ok to look at a picture of a girl in a bikini (or something similar) because it's not 'proper' porn and then woosh , back to square one...
     

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