am i clingy or is she rude?

I just read the first post, I don't know the all story, and that you broke up or anything. But come on man, don't talk like this.

Don't go from love to hate, she gave you her heart, remain in good terms, usually break ups are just a test.

But I'll have to read the all thing, even do what you said about looking at other girls and being horny is not a good thing.

But don't talk like that, you are being a douche tbh.

 

Also all this started because you are in different countries, long distance relationships usually don't work, that is why I told you I always break up when this happens.

Take into account this too, you are angry and emotional right now. Take some time to think things in a calm manner.

 

You were not talking about porn, you are a man in another country different from hers telling her you are horny and looking at other girls.

What is she going to think?
First, if you are in love you will never think or consider sleeping with other girls, faithfulness comes naturally.

So the first thing she could think is you don't love her. You are not a man that she can trust, you can't keep it in your pants.
You are using her just for sex.

All this is probably not true, but women are negative creatures they usually only see the negative side of things.
She just felt you were not so much into her any longer. She sees the situation from her emotional point of view, not a rational point of view. She is a woman, not a man they don't think like us, you can't expect her to think like you, because she won't.

I say try to talk it out, explain you made a mistake, that you love her. And that you can remain friends and you are open to be still be with her, she is hurt agmd angry her emotions will change. It is not like you cheated, you just had a moment of weakness and misjudgement by telling her.

Also man you are an engineer, you are making the assumption that talking to your girl was the right choice because other man did something similar to their girls.

But as an engineer and a man of reason you don't see that you have a particular problem different from them, also every problem requieres a different precise solution, think differently and find solutions that is what an engineer is all about.

 

She is actually breaking up for real with you. But if you remain calm and wait for her to reach out to you again, if you react in a loving a caring attitude this will bring her attention and love for you back. This will show your real character.

And now you are not showing good traits tbh, but is normal break ups and emotional world of women are difficult to deal.

Make the situation clear with her say sorry, remain friendly and supportive and wait until she comes back at you, because she will

 

That is good. Leave it there. Wait for her to calm down

 

Also you are in a porn recovery site be careful of who you take advice, this is full of confused people, blinded minds with red pill culture, lust and porn

 

The thing is not so much telling her you looked at other girls it's what is implied in the words: cheating.

Tell her, assure her you will never cheat on her. That is the deep issue here.

 

It's not running after her, it's just making one last thing clear. That was the all point of the problem. It can be a simple text. And you leave it there.

But if you wamt to make it an ego battle, you do you.

 

I think that is better to work to solve your issues and then think about dating other people. The idea is to go to a relationship to give, but to give positive things to the other person, and not all your baggage you are not willing to work to solve by yourselve. Most woman are not going to put up with the fact that you are tempted to flirt with oher woman.

Besides that, you turned her off by doing that. Showed weakness and she walked away. Is doesn't matter if that argument is red pilled, blue pilled, PUA advice.. whatever.. is just how woman respond to weakness.

 

Yeah, no problem!

No, you didn't do anything wrong, but depending on how long you've been together, it may have been a good idea to take things slowly. In the future, it is always a good idea to get to know her more first in this area by asking prefacing questions about whether she knows much about temptation and sexual lust and what men (and women) battle with at times, rather than just laying it on her like that. Tactfulness and gentleness in the approach is necessary.

Letting someone know that you are safe and kind is first by demonstrating that. This will take time, and relationships take time to build trust to prove yourself overtime. This also will require patience on the part of both of you. Yes, the letter does encompass that.

Furthermore, in 2 more of your questions, by saying the words, "You didn't reply, you left it on read... it was kinda rude. etc." These statements can be interpreted as accusatory on her part, and they do sound accuatory, even though you are just stating facts. Also because of the blunt "You" statements and lack of heart connected words. You want to convey hope in the relationship and kindness whenever you have to address a statement to a female (or anyone). Especially women.
Feel free to re-read the message I provided if you need to get the spirit behind how to soften the words behind such issues a bit better.

Relationships are all about both people, not just 1! It's good that you are realizing this, because a lot of people can get self-centered in relationships. That's when they fail.
Long distance relationships do work contrary to popular belief, but they require more time. You can do so from a distance through sharing your heart with her through text, being loyal to her, and demonstrating that you are and can be safe to her. If she confides in you, honor that. If she pushes back, honor her space. If she needs help communicating, try to help her. Treat others how you want to be treated, and hopefully she will be and do the same for you, as you both grow in maturity.

Awesome. Way to go! Big thumbs up.

Yes, I mentioned in the conclusion of the message to wait about 2 weeks perhaps. Definitely do not send it soon.

Hope this helps!

 

I know it can feel good but you shouldn't let hate and contempt drive your search for success. Realize where you messed up, accept the result, and move on.