Am I different?

Hi everyone.

I'm askkng for a reality check here regarding dating.

Some background:
I am 27 years old, and I've been single my whole life. I've had sex one time, where the both of us were quite drunk.

This night I was having a few beers with a recent friend I've made. He said he had noticed I was not seeing anyone, and I had not showed interest in any women when we were together. He said something along the lines of that I look great, and I could be making women. I really did not have a good answer to why.

It's not like I am not interested in women. It doesn't happen to all women, but sometimes I can tell if I am interested in one or not. He started this after we had been to a store to buy beer, where the store clerk was this young girl. Like I should have asked her out. She was okay, not that amazing looking, but not ugly at all. I'm wondering if I'm being stupid or a pussy for not making a move. He made it seem like I was ridiculous for not doing anything. But I don't even know where to start with her.

We were playing some games with a few other friends. Do I bring her there? That seems awkward as hell. Do I ask for her number? I don't even know her.

Writing out that not knowing her is a reason for not getting her number makes me realize how ridiculous that it. The whole point of getting her number is to get to know her. But it doesn't solve my situation. At the end of the day, I don't feel like talking to her, even if there is some attraction.

I should say that I am pretty shy around strangers. Recently I spent an evening with a friends friend, who asked if I was 'a stressed person'. I asked him what he meant, but he couldn't elaborate.

Privately I am thinking about getting a girlfriend, and have made FEW attempts to get one. There has been 8 months between my last two dates, which both got aranged through tinder.

My friend made me feel like there is something wrong with me. Another friend told me: "just wait until you realize how easy it is to get a woman." So I'm feeling a lot of pressure. That same pressure is makkng me act weird. I really don't know if it's true, if I just haven't tried, if I'm just inexperienced and don't know what is possible. I just want to be able to perceive the end of what happens when I ask a girl for her number. It's all unknown. I'm probably just scared as hell to touch something I don't know anything about. Is that so strange? This pressure from my friends is affecting me deeply, because some part of me agrees with it.
Sorry for the long rant, I hope some of what I write makes sense.. I'm considering seeing a therapist at some point because of the pressure. Thanks for reading.

 

Thank you everyone, I appreciate what you are saying. It's what I want to hear. I would like to know what goes through your heads when you see a woman you are attracted to. I myself feel pressure, guilt and insecurity

 

Thanks for your reply. Could you clarify what you are writing here?