Am I getting ok with my reboot?

Discussion in 'Rebooting in a Relationship' started by Draxo, Feb 28, 2017.

  1. Draxo

    Draxo New Fapstronaut

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    Hi! I want to ask you guys what "stage" am I for you guys.

    So I'm in a 4 months relationship now and that encourgae me to abstain from porn. My first attempt was at 25 december and I made 0 PMO for month. But I relapsed... 4 times during next month. But now I'm back again and I know It's my final attempt.

    I know that I have PIED because I was wtaching P and hardcore P since 11 years old (now I'm 20). Plus when we first started cuddling and kissing I felt no move down there. So for me I'm 100% PIED.

    To my question now - For about 3 weeks from now (when I relapsed 4 times) I can feel more down there. Even when we are just kissing for a while I can feel that he slowly want to be hard. Sometimes when we're cuddling and kissing for more I feel erection (not 100% but still erect) and sometimes I don't feel much. I really want to start making love with my lady but I'm afraid I'm still not able to even when I erect more than for the first times. I automatically think about my penis (like: Come on, get up!) when I'm cuddling and kissing with my lady

    Is it because I relapsed and my testosterone levels grown (I have read about 7 days testosterone levels) or I'm just healing? And do you think I should try to make love with my girl or it's too early?

    I don't speak fluent English so I'm sorry for any mistakes. Have a nice day!
     
  2. 1520617453

    1520617453 New Fapstronaut

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    The more you will count the days without porn, the more you will think about testosterone levels, the hardness of your penis and is it or is it not the right time, the more you will keep yourself away from the pleasure you have already deserved 4 months ago when you started these relationships.

    Kissing and cuddling is not sex. They are the romantic part of your relationships, so don't be desperate if you don't get rock hard erection from them.

    It is rather obvious that the main obstacle to the real life sexual pleasure is your fear and focusing on absolutely wrong things.

    And you won't overcome this fear by telling or even screaming to your penis - "come on, get up!".......instead.....all you have to do is to visualize your sexual contact............what are those things that you really would like to do with your girlfriend and that would give you the biggest arousal....if you will visualize this all several times before sex......your fear still will be there......but in dramatically smaller amounts........because you'll already know what to do.......

    And the most important thing....in each and every moment of sex you must only think (or more precisely - feel deep inside of you) what is the next action that will bring you the biggest sexual pleasure......and just do it......
     
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