Am I just over confident?

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  1. Baus

    Baus Fapstronaut

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    I started masturbating in 2014, didn't really know how to masturbate at that time but I discovered it by, being really horny... A girl cancelled on me, so I kinda just stroked my dick because I was so horny till I came, and I was like "oooo so that's what masturbation is...."
    Then I was like "oh shit! How can I unlearn that..? "
    Because this will become a habit when the girls prove to hard to come by or just too demanding and I dreaded that day, I still hate that night laying in bed texting her...
    Oh yah!! now I remember, she suggested it to me... I remember rebuking her, claiming that it was beneath me... But after going offline I tried it and I liked and hated it at the same time..

    Anyways I started with pictures of big booty girls only.... Then went on to porno videos, I mean I did watch porn before then but it was just to get me horny enough to fuck a girl and not just to masturbate.... Then I started to use porn to masturbate and it was so much better, but what really got me off was big booty Instagram models, I'll jerk off to that shit everyday.... I saw the signs it was affecting my sex life but I went ignant, up to the point I couldn't have sex satisfactorily if I wasn't giving her from the back (viewing the big booty twerking)....

    Anyways I recently met a girl I really care about and she likes me and everything, it gets really frustrating when my dick just goes flaccid argh! Anyways she has a high sex drive and I used to too... I know I can match her if I get rid of the twerking girls, and masturbation....

    Today is my 2 of 90.. I actually stated with the, 30 day challenge but I was like fuck it, let's go all the way, I want my sexually active and social life back...

    So here's my question, yesterday I went on Instagram and watched those twerking videos again, just kinda like to mock them because I noticed they have no power over me anymore and it was weird and I was all alone, even weirder... I didn't have the slightest urge to touch myself, almost as if I hated them for taking away my dick energy, rn my dick doesn't indicate 100% battery charge anymore, but oh well I guess I have enough time to correct that....

    Sk here's my question : is looking through the twerking videos a bad idea considering our history sometimes inevitable to look because I use ig everyday or is it nothing to worry about considering I did girls before porn and I wasn't in too deep with the masturbation addiction ?
     
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  2. What would you say to an alcohol addict who came to you and said: „You know that stuff has no more control over me, would vomit if I had to drink, just feel like sniffing at the bottle, inhaling the odour, just checking, for fun.“

    • A: That‘s ok, no problem, don‘t worry.
    • B: Today you sniff, tomorrow you‘ll wet your lips, in 3 days you take a sip and ...
    • C: You sniff it? And claim it has no more power over you???
     
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  3. Heyyy welcome to the NoFap forum : ) It's nice to see you here fighting the good fight alongside us!

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  4. Hello and welcome! :)

    We are glad to have you as a part of our community. Here are some quick links to get you started.

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  5. Baus

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    Well I really don't know the answer to that...
     
  6. Jonny1992

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    The answer is, you are betraying your self. If it got no power over you why you stikl watch it?

    you will relapse if you watch that!
     
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  7. Baus

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    ..thank you... I did relapse after having sex with my girlfriend
     
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  8. Jonny1992

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    Good that you are honest, keep fighting. Prepare for the chaser effect!
     
  9. Baus

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    Thanks I will...
     
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  10. Jonny1992

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    Kill it!
     
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