So I'm 27, and up until 2 days ago I was a virgin. After seeing my freinds get married at the weekend (something I really enjoyed), I got talking to a bridesmaid. She was pretty and we seemed to have a lot in common, we got on well and she added me on FB. So I waited a day and messaged her. She has seen it and not responded. I sent another message a little while afterwards and it's been ignored. This put me into a bit of a downward spiral because a relationship is all I've wanted since I was 16 when my last one ended and I've had a lot of ups and downs due to this. One thing that I think has been holding me back is being a virgin there was a lot of nerves about being with someone and then not knowing what to do, fear of rejection, finishing prematurely etc. So I figured what the heck, this is something I need to get out of the way. My virginity has become a hurdle I can't seem to get past in my own mind. So I booked an escort. I was understandably nervous, she was the most attractive person I could find. The experience was great in that I learned a lot about myself. I had fun and have come away happier knowing that I can have sex and I'm not too bad at it either. But there is one big problem. I couldn't finish. There I was with this beautiful woman doing everything within her power to help me orgasm and i didn't really feel all that much. The sex was a bit boring because of this and despite her best efforts I ended up having to finish myself off with a little help. So I came away from the experience and when I got home, I masturbated and I did so the next day and there were no problems finishing what so ever. Over these couple of days I've been googling to figure out how on earth I lasted 45mins on my first go. What I've come to realise is that I've been masturbating for the past 14 years in a way that is not achieved through normal sex. I'd seen stories about things like this and always dismissed it because I get so excited by porn how could the real thing not get me off. Actually it's quite different and i think it's completely warped my perspective on real sex. So after some more googling, here I am. I need to make a change, wish me luck!