An Exercise in "NoFap, Yes Life": Freedom Rocks

Hey all, I also just wanted to share this with you as something that came up in a conversation with my accountability partner. I realized that, for myself, I needed a visual and tactile reminder each day of what I wanted freedom towards. In thinking about this, I realized many of the successful people I knew who had attained their vision always had something external to them that they could reach out to—some sort of totem. That said, I went to a local shop that specializes in these nice looking natural rocks, some of which even have special symbolism in some places. I bought two small ones that were aesthetically pleasing to me and decided to call them “Freedom Rocks,” which basically goes like this. (Note: I bought mine, but you could easily find some in your local area for free—even sand gravel, haha.)

I keep them with me in my pocket to remind myself that, just as much as a lack of freedom is present in each moment via reactiveness (which is what PMO basically is), there’s also a moment of freedom in responsiveness towards sexual energy. Each time there’s a moment of craving, I just lightly look at and/or touch the rocks, with the thought, “Freedom rocks!” (As you can guess, it’s a play on words, haha. At certain times, I also say this out loud if I am at home alone.) Because of their weight, the rocks remind myself that the vision of freedom towards a new masculinity is a grounding force. I also imagine that, across the world, there are many men just like myself who also have ‘freedom rocks’ and carry them with them as a sign to themselves and to the world that we are choosing in each moment, regardless of if the craving is there or not, to embrace a more empowered masculinity. That said, if anyone wants to join me in this new ritual I’ve made for myself, let me know. We can even send each other pictures of our freedom rocks with a caption along the lines of “I am choosing to exercise freedom towards...” (whatever it may be for you in your PMO challenge). (In fact, if anyone wants to private message me, I will show you the pictures of my freedom rocks.)

I’ve also been thinking of a ‘ritual’ for responding, as opposed to reacting, to “relapse,” which could go something like this…

(1) Take your freedom rocks and cover them with dirt outside so that they are completely covered. This serves as a visual and tactile reminder that your vision, but not you, has been muddied.
(2) Then go inside and re-wash them, not from a feeling of franticness but from a feeling of self-compassion.
(3) Re-read your commitment to freedom towards whatever vision you have for yourself in the PMO challenge as you hold them tightly and then place them back in your pocket.

 

Haha, you guys are the greatest! I'm so glad to be a part of the "NoFap" community--one of the most fun revolutions that exist We really are all setting examples for strengthening all of the communities and relationships we are a part of. Here's to more freedom