And so it begins.

Discussion in 'Self Improvement' started by RogerFM, Jul 26, 2022.

  1. RogerFM

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    Stopped gaming. That's by far the biggest thing in my life keeping me from achieving my goals. Only mid second day and I'm already bored to tits looool.
     
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  2. RogerFM

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    Still bored, and mind unfocused as fuck. It's like my thoughts are made of jelly and I'm stuck in slow motion. I feel anxious, like I want to do something but I don't know what(well, gaming probably). Guess I'm still on the easy part though. We'll see how the next days will be.
     
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  3. TheGrindDontStop

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    Were you gaming on pc or console? And did you sell it or what? I’m thinking really hard about quitting gaming at the moment, but I feel like I would want to play some new games that’s coming out in a few months.
     
  4. Joseph Campbell

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    Gotta keeper movin man, and try not to get crazy focused on the results. I think the best move is to do extensive research and reading on here, make sure you agree with the philosophy of this whole thing, that abstaining from porn addiction, or video games, or whatever you're trying to cut out your life will lead to something better... Make absolutely sure you believe in the sobriety, make the necessary changes to structure a life without them, and then do your best to forget about monitoring the outcome like a hawk, as the changes will be very hard to see and understand at first... Just try your best to get focused on whatever will replace the bullshit and let go of the results, trust the process.

    You don't want to be addicted to abstinence, you want to be free of addiction! I think the best approach is not hyper-focusing on abstinence, but rather being sure that abstinence is what you want, and then putting that attention and energy into whatever else you'd like to be doing with your life.
     
  5. RogerFM

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    PC, lots of handhelds too. Basically I deleted all my games from PC and stored my handhelds. Also, I get it, I also had a lot of games I still wanted to finish, that's why I set a goal, I won't game for a month, which is usually the time for your brain's dopamine circuitry takes to reshape itself (source 1), after that we'll see, but, having a set goal for me makes things easy.

    Oh for sure, I think stopping games have very little support in general, when researching stopping porn there are like thousands of articles, on games it's a bit harder, it's almost as if there is an stigma about STOPPING to play it. Because on itself gaming isn't that much terrible I guess, but when you are addicted it's insidious, specially how time flies when you're into a virtual world.

    So believing it will work, yeah, that's a difficult subject, I'm going from the standpoint of dopamine over stimulation and how it robs the pleasures from small things and also did enough research to know that for a while it will be absolute shit. Specially since, I'm stopping games so I can have interests that are more varied and healthy but at the same time I have to accept for now I'll have have little interest in anything, so I'm knowingly riding that wave. What helps me is that I have a husky and those dogs demand a lot of attention, so it forces me to move out an take care of it even when I don't want to. Plus, I'm doing therapy which helps. Right now, I'm accepting every small change in the right direction as enough, I've done crazy changes in the past and I always failed for not being able to handle it. Now I'm taking a more careful approach since stop gaming in itself is already very difficult for me.


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  6. RogerFM

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    So far it's pretty ok, less boredom too, end of the week I'm going to visit my parents, going to spend a week or two with them, the idea is to change my sleeping habits and start waking up early, not just on time for work. Should give me more time to solve other things in my life and maybe allow me to enjoy new and better hobbies.
     
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    My mind is kind of fucked today. Restless. Emotions in turmoil. Sad, angry, anxious. I'm hanging in there, but I wish my mind would pull me into so many directions.

    Habits make the man though, cellphone, YouTube, discord, all to take the edge off and yet they make things worse. A joke and gag here and there, make myself happy for the meager attention of faceless people. And yet when I sit still for a moment there is only melancholy and no will power to do anything else.

    All I can do is stick to the plan, no gaming, if all else fails, that will not, not matter how much it hurts to just exist without distractions.

    I did good too, I woke up each day at 09:00 the whole week, before it was around 13:00, I left the house twice to go to the office and that was pleasant, I didn't leave the house for a month maybe. These are good things, but they just drained me, I'm doing well, why do I feel only disappointment?
     
  8. RogerFM

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    Still no games, managing it much better now, can't believe its been this long already since I played anything. Been dealing with stuff I would have just brushed off. Can't say it's been comfortable or that I'm feeling amazing, but, a bit better , little by little. Having some more energy and will power to get things done.
     
  9. stoicWill

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    Gaming is definitely a vice of mine. One RL game turns into 10 and then before you know it there goes the afternoon.
     
  10. RogerFM

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    Games are a big escape from reality, if you play too much you can let problems pile up and after a while when you stop and you look at everything wrong around you it's kinda scary. Right now I'm paying old bills, taking care of my health working on tons of problems I was procrastinating. It's definitely uncomfortable. But I'm trusting it will pay off in the future.
     
  11. RogerFM

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    Anyone ever lose weight and began to feel their skin itch? Plus my belly feels like jelly. Since I've stopped gaming I've begun to manage my diet too, I'm doing IF and most eating protein, but I'm not going full kto or even low carb. Now when I walk I itch all over the place for a while. I'm eating well, not feeling sick or anything. Just itchy and a jelly belly lol.
     
  12. RogerFM

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    Still going strong in my objective of not gaming. 19 days now, well, 20 to be fair, but I'll follow the countdown, what's one day more or one day less. Things are getting better, sure I still crave gaming, and my mood is all out of whack, but I'm beginning to feel more grounded, if that makes any sense.

    Other than not gaming, I'm taking my anti depressants for about 3 days, which, I have to say really is helping me, I was foolish to stop using them, it was pride really, I didn't want to rely on medications, but, hey, if it helps, it helps. I'm also losing weight, getting out of the house more, and overall being much more active, which isn't much for normal people, but for me, hey, any small win should be celebrated. Oh, and I woke up at most 10:30 all of these days, before it was at 13:00 every days,

    Bought some new shirts, which, is great since I'm going to the office now. Another thing I did was install an app in my cellphone that blocks youtube, discord and any other app I want from 00:00 to 10:00. I can set any schedule really, but, so far it's fine, this way I don't spend too many hours just watching stupid videos and engaging in pointless convos until too late at night.

    Anyway, I still have a long ways to go but, I'm glad I'm doing this.
     
  13. RogerFM

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    Woooot. Almost a month of not gaming. Next step will be cutting Ifood for a month.
     
  14. RogerFM

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    HELL YEAH!!!!!

    ONE MONTH!!!!!

    NO GAMING AT ALL!!!

    Now phase two begins, counter updated, no IFOOD for a month. That should work in two ways.

    1 - I'll have to get out of the house more.

    2 - I'll have to make my food.

    So instead of sitting all day and order food and only getting up to go to the door and receive it, now I have to move. Slowly I'll get my life sorted out. That coupled with the fact that now I have to go to the office means I should get used to leave the house sooner and when I get less anxious about leaving I can start going to the gym!!!!

    Man... Seriously happy today.
     
  15. RogerFM

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    ooof, time to start again on the no ifood. Still no gaming though.
     

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