Anger and impatience

Discussion in 'Rebooting - Porn Addiction Recovery' started by awesomedavid, Jun 13, 2015.

  1. awesomedavid

    awesomedavid Fapstronaut

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    I can't seem to shake off the anger that comes from having unsuccessful dates and just feeling ugly when I look at myself in the mirror :(
     
  2. TGM85

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    You have to grow your self-esteem. I choose the word 'grow' because it's exactly like a seedling now - it's very fragile, and the slightest provocation will kill it.

    Nourish your self-esteem. Groom yourself. See yourself as a friend with the exact problems. Give advice, love, hug, tell yourself that things are difficult now, but you possess the power the overcome it. Don't tolerate people who make you feel bad. Do the things that make you feel good about yourself, not just for the moment, but even after the thing is done and you can feel satisfied with you.

    Soon, your self-esteem is going to grow, and someday, you find yourself being able to walk away from situations that make you feel bad about yourself, and on that day you're going to feel invincible. Like you've gained a new superpower.

    Slowly though. One step at a time, don't rush it, and remember - grow your self-esteem.
     
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  3. awesomedavid

    awesomedavid Fapstronaut

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    It seems almost impossible to reach a stage where i won't be affected by what others say about you especially if the person is physically attractive
     
  4. Powerof3

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    Be grateful for the unsuccessful dates. I don't get dates at all. Don't be bothered by things like that. It doesn't really matter.
     
  5. It's really dangerous to attach your self-worth to the opinions of others (and believe me, I've struggled with it for a long time) because you can't control the opinions of other people. When someone says something hurtful about you, take the time to take care of that hurt. Treat yourself with compassion. We will be hurt in life, and that's the bad news. But the good news is that no matter what you look like or what you've accomplished, you are worthy of love; everyone is worthy of love.

    Because I too struggle with self-esteem in my life, I take time at night before I fall asleep to work on positive affirmations. I basically tell myself that I am worthwhile. It sounds really cheesy and childish at first, but physically giving yourself positive messages, even the ones you aren't sure you believe, will have an enormous impact in the long run.
     

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