Anger and PMO

I've found that when I'm angry, the best way to counter it is to find something that makes me calm or happy. Pics of kittens, my favorite song, petting my dog, etc. These happy things push the bad feelings out until I can deal with them later more objectively.

 

Yoga and meditation are more preventative measures than things you do in response to a stimulus. I hear if you do enough yoga, blood flows to your joints better, your muscles get the necessary stretches, and that's supposed to release the happy chemicals in your brain. I've done meditation before but not yoga. Meditation is *extremely* relaxing just by itself. I really recommend it... and should probably do it more myself.

Oh also, don't forget to go outside in the sun at least 15 minutes per day. If you're around nature for even that long, it does wonders for your mood

 

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I find that sort of observing the situation helps. Are you going to stand around and waste time worrying and getting hot-headed over something, or are you going to calm down and do your best to enjoy life?

~Squeaky Soul

 

Anger and the urge to PMO goes hand in hand. Excuse me if i'm gonna be a little freudish here. Often in my own life i experienced that anger leads to pmo, the question is; Why is that?

My theory is that anger in a healthy way has a direction, an angle. When your not used to direct your anger or to give a healthy respons to it, anger will direct inwards. By PMO, two things happen. First, the anger dissapears because it is replaced by a powerfull experience. The second is, when you come back to senses after PMO, the shame and guilt will appear, and then the magic happens. The anger will also be back, but now it isnt directed to anybody but yourself. This is a very destructive pattern because it will undermine your self esteem.

The best is to locate the source of your anger and try to deal with it more constructively, try to write it down, try to speak to someone about it, go do sports.

Don't forget that you are a too much worhty person to spent your days in anger ; )

 

Yeah, meditation definitely.

Also, as others have said, just going out to get fresh air is really important.

Don't allow things to bottle up inside of you. Find the route of your frustration and irritation. It just takes some soul searching. Ask yourself honestly, what is the cause of your anger. It could be something from your childhood or your teen years.

Also, what are you passionate about? What is your favourite hobby? The moment you get annoyed or frustrated, quickly retreat to your hobbies and use that as a way of escape and relaxation. I sometimes like to put on a video game to just zone out for a while.

 

I have found two things very useful.
Because anger occurs instantly it is hard to control it, but its conversion to the urge for PMO is a longer process. Try washing your face, arms and feet with cold water. Also if you are standing up you should sit down a bit. If you are already sitting then just stretch yourself in lying position and realize that your anger actually harms only yourself and it doesn't help to solve the problem that caused it.