Anger Management

Yes anger is a sign that something is up under the hood. If you can afford it, seek help from a therapist.

I've learned from my readings and experience that anger is a sign something is not going as you'd like in your life. But you ignore, repress and internalize your emotions which you end up releasing by uncontrolled bursts of anger.

You can learn to acknowledge those emotions and accept them. It will improve your life and reduce your anger.

Me personally, 6 months ago I was full of rage and resentment at everyone and everything. I was honking 6 times a day while driving, yelling and insulting many other drivers on a daily basis, ranting about my work non-stop.

I'm muuuuch calmer now.

Besides seeing a therapist what really helped me was to acknowledge I can't control anyone else but myself, and I can't control everything in life. I also do mindfulness meditation which helps identifying the emotions that I usually repress. I also did a lot of reading.

 

Let the anger out and then never let it in.
Meditate, listen to metal, go to gym, beat the crap out of boxing bag, read.

 

You need Jesus

 

Sorry to ask, just curious to know, are you currently on nofap or semen retention? I am trying to understand if you are angry naturally or is it caused by above mentioned practices.

 

My name's Andrew but my friends call me Randy Andy, besides pm+ I also have an anger problem. I tried treating it as an addict ion, maybe it is maybe it isn't I don't know. Some people say it's related to the sex (whether digital sex, sex with others or self or in the mind or in various ways it's all sex) and I don't know if it is or not I try not to hold onto an opinion about that. I just want to be free like I have been from pm+ I like what has been shared about facing feelings from a perspective of accepting them rather than fighting them, that send really helpful to me. I did a lot of suppression and repression and kept raging.. a book that is helping me that talk s about that cycle and also offers a solution is "letting go: the pathway of surrender" by David r Hawkins, maybe someone reading will find it helpful too.

 

I actually had some anger-management issues myself until a few years ago when I finally started to get it under control. The solution in my case was partially my former boss who was very calm and patient with me and it was him who showed me how tasks could be done/performed without losing it. Also, forming new friendships (with calm and harmonious people) during those years also helped me in my struggle as we all inspire each other to become better men. My younger brother (who is very calm) also helped me in this process on a subconscious level since I wanted to acquire that type of behavior myself. In the culture and ethnic group I am from, it is seen as a virtue being able to control your temper and feelings of anger since you won't be respected and taken seriously by your countrymen if you can't.
These days, I do very rarely flip-out as something and only once in a while do something really get me out of balance. The only thing that can irritate and stress me a little nowadays are loud noises (like screaming kids, loud people and noisy vehicles) since my hearing is very sensitive and every time a sudden loud noise hits my ears, they almost hurt instantly and I get a light temporary migraine because of it.
Although genetics might be a part in it, anger, frustration and envy are feelings who are usually signs of your internal world (mind, psyche, mindset and vibrational levels) being out of balance and vice versa. By doing a lot of work on yourself, your psyche, mind and mindset, you can go a long way in getting control over your anger and other negative feelings. With control, I don't necessarily mean on an active level but rather on a subconscious one.

Overall, I have come a long way since I was literally stomping, kicking and behaving like a child in during my teens (or half my life ago) when nothing went as planned. It was only a few years ago, I decided that I need to change and by taking those babysteps in the right direction, the anger slowly lost its grip on me.

 

This is a real issue for me while rebooting. It's made me come to realise how much I was/am relying on P/M to relieve tension and stress.

You need to recognise these feelings before you flip out. At the first possible sign just apologise to your wife/children, explain that you need to be alone for a bit, and go outside for a walk, or sit in your car for a bit, etc. Whatever you need to do. You will be amazed how quickly the feeling passes when you have removed yourself from the situation that is causing it.

It might be helpful for you to explain to your wife ahead of time that this will be your coping strategy, in case she assumes you are storming off in a huff and decides to go into a rage of her own! Explain that this is going to be your way of dealing with your issues and ask for her support.

I hope your doctor will be understanding and the course will be helpful to you.

 

This is the sentence that most accurately explains what bursts of anger really are.
OP, I have been struggling with anger management for the better part of my teenage years and 20s. My lifestyle was severely sedentary and my sources of pleasure were PMO and video games. I was getting extremely angry at games whenever something didn't go my way and after breaking some expensive stuff I realized that I wasn't happy.
Find sources of fulfillment that get you closer to the version of yourself you want to be, and try to stay away from sources of instant gratification and false happiness.
What I have found is making me more miserable as time goes on are:

• video games
• purposelessly watching videos/movies/TV series
• eating junk food
• staying at home too much
• not socializing with friends and family
• not exercising
  
• not learning or pushing myself
• not taking responsibility
  
• not having good habits

The last two really impact me, because I realized I need to take my life into my own hands, because whatever happens to me is my doing, and if I'm miserable, I need to change what I'm doing currently. That also means taking accountability for my own unhappiness.
The last one is important, because so far I've come to understand that good habits make for a good life. If you:

• wake up
• exercise
• meditate
• eat healthy
  
• work

consistently every day, you will feel so much more fulfilled by yourself.

Good luck, OP!