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Discussion in 'Rebooting - Porn Addiction Recovery' started by trob45, May 10, 2019.
Everything around me is triggering anger in me today. Is anger part of flatline?
Good job being aware of your feelings. Rebalancing all the brain stuff does take time. I got super-frustrated easily when the habit was denied and I set a new path. Seems childish, but it happened to me, as well. Exercise helps me a great deal. What exercise do you like?
Sometimes I get easily annoyed and angry as I go through flatline. I keep reminding myself to be extra patient with life and people. and as a workout I beat the punching bag intensely on those days.
For me, anger was a result of knowing that I was living a complete lie. Committed in marriage, a father of three boys, leader in my church and community, and that other guy. The addict, liar, hiding behavior, self indulging, denial, secrets, etc.
So much of my emotional resources were used up trying to manage that other guy at any little trigger would set me off.
When all that finally came out and I faced the reality of how my addiction has affected everyone and every area of my life, the anger along with the addiction started going away.
It takes time and it takes honesty. Hang in there.
Take deep breaths and get curious about how you are feeling and what is behind that.
I walk, rock climb, and have been known to be a runner, but haven’t ran that much this year to date.
Just finished meditating and went for a good walk to clear my head. Sitting with the anger and giving it a voice. It’s not as present as it was earlier. Might be a bit dehydrated? So fixing that and just staying in the now.
Thanks for the replies, fellas!
Keep going forward pal! Maybe an afternoon or evening walk could help.
After a while my anger turned into bitterness and then into sadness. But it has probably to do with NoFap so just keep going.
Lots of emotions can be part of the detox part. I hope u got a chance to workout or walk for a while.
It's definitely part of coming off the addiction
Today I felt the same I got triggered by strange things even if I ate too much or watch a little bit of you tube videos I was super judgmental of myself and others I was angry frustrated I had to do breathing exercises 4 count in 4 count hold 4 count out 4 count in 4 count hold like a box for 5 to 12 min , this works very well , but I do notice since going on NoFap my anger today was because of the thought that I let this bad habit pick up momentum and because I wont let myself fap it scared me how my anger wanted to do whatever until it got its way I still feel like the anger is there and will turn later into bitterness , jealousy, sadness etc but I count on meditation , exercise , family , educating myself etc in order to remain calm under the pressure
same here Im realizing I don't love myself and just need to get calm amongst chaos of life is the best meditation helps breathing helps mantras help
Meditation is helping. I also went to bed early and seemed to help.
Yes it is part of it. Your brain is not getting the dopamine it wants so it's making you really short and angry I'm literally going through that now...but I have been on long streaks before this is part of the phase were your brain is getting back to normal. DO NOT take it out on people around you I use to do it to my family it's not worth it. Congratulations on your 16 days keep going your strong
Got it ! I noticed the first people I take it out on is my family that’s why I put that post and thanks I won’t take it out on any one if anything I’ll focus on breathing excercises they help a lot along with a lot of other skills I learned along the way ! Stay strong
Thanks for the replies. I’m leaning into the flatline and feeling a bit more even. Pretty indifferent today and that’s ok. I usually use this as an excuse to chase the dopamine. Today I focused on our house remodel.
Again, thank you for the tips and replies.
Even though yesterday evening I felt frustrated today at work I felt very good about myself no shame or weirdness no hang over from porn watching very comfortable around people calm notice women being friendly and nice people are way better to me and since noticing my anger I’m doing all I can to control my emotions breathing deep if I get to upset etc
Yeah getting to bed early helps speaking of that I’m on a few weeks in of waking up at 530 am this goal has helped me wake up early train plan my day not be late to work listen to books or podcast by 730 am I’m focused for the day I’m pretty much sacrificing partying and other habits like fapping to drive the transformation I wanna have