Another failed attempt

Hey man. I don't even know how to respond, I'm just really glad you said it.
How long with the gf?
What would you think of the idea of talking to her about it?
What other ways could you build intimacy, other than sex?
If you are in a flatline or still recovering from porn use, and are temporarily not able to get or maintain erections, what are other ways you can be intimate and have le sexy times, other than penis-in-vagina sex?

 

Yes it´s a matter of your own confidence. In your mind the only way to satisfy her is be penetrating her. So not true! She does not even have to have an orgasm to be satisfied. Girls can be satisfied by satisfying you. Let her know she is really pleasuring you, but you can only do this by fully enjoying it yourself.
Next time you have sex, go in with the mindset that you will not go beyond foreplay. You can cuddle, kiss, touch, lick as long as you want, but no penetration allowed. Make sure you let your girlfriend know this, so you are both on the same page.
This will take the pressure of and you will probably get a solid erection, and if not that´s also okay. You have to do nothing more than to enjoy it. Concentrate on how good she feels and how good shes making you feel.

 

I think this is the right way to do. Mind wants to catch Toad1999 in this idea he has to penetrate her immediately. That's wrong. There is no such need. And really - with a lot of distance to where it is happening I have no doubt that all this problem will be solved sooner or later completely and his erection will be as natural as it was years ago. Nothing to push - just relax and enjoy.