Another loner seeking help

Idk how i can help you when I'm the same, but in my early 20's , keep trying I guess? Both of us.

 

I'm in the same boat. I've come to understand that I a sense it has to do with increasing awareness and accepting responsibility for all our actions. As said before keep going, don't give up and eventually something will work out. Best of luck . Stay clean

 

Everyone's process is different, f0f. The trick is, you can't see relapsing as this horrible thing, but just part of your process for personal growth. Your number of relapses does not determine whether you're a success or a failure. It just means that your journey is different. Stick to your ambitious goal of being free of porn and you'll get there, one way or another.

 

I have the same problem. Maybe if im not lonely i wouldnt be so addicted to it

 

Friend, keep a MARATHON mentality while being on this journey. It will test our patience, determination, discipline, hard work and resilience. Identify your reasons for throwing this shit out of your life. Question yourself, why you want to do this? Strongly feel that reason. Think what type of person you would be without this. How your life will change?
Once you truly convince your heart, soul about why you want to do this, no amount of evil desire will be able to shake your determination. You will persist. And, I have observed that everything looks tough actually until and unless we go and do it. Remember, change is hard at the beginning, messy in the middle but gorgeous at the end. So, dust yourself off as quickly as possible, and start this endeavour with a renewed focus, energy, insight and determination. You will definitely succeed. This journey is definitely hard, but it's absolutely worth it.

 

I like this post because he's saying that, u gain all of these qualities of being patient, resilient, determined, visionary and hard worker.. These are qualities girls are attracted to in a man,, dont feel like it's too late

 

Its never too late. Keep posting, stick to journaling how you feel. I failed a multitude of times. I can't even count. I even went and bought a Pavlok, a electric zap band that you press to shock you. Threw it in the garbage after a week. Treat yourself well, have self compassion and never surrender. Look through articles and videos eventually something will click and it will have changed your thought patterns ever so slightly that it will shake your core.

I wish you well. We all struggle together.

Stay clean

 

Hi all,
New here, at least I see from the posts that I have read so far, that people are in the same boat and try not to be judgement.
I thought it was only me who was suffering as I have been. I am actually relieved to know that I am not.
The mind can play tricks on you and box you into a deep depression and a corner that you seem to not be able to get out of.
I spent many years there. I am at most times now telling myself, I still have to live somehow and try not to remain in that place all the time.
Getting out helps, but is not the cure. The lonely moments will come, and I really don't like it but have to live with it.
All the best to everyone with similar trouble.

 

The first step is the hardest step, since you have decided to quit so don't look back at your past, no-one has bright past, so better you care about your future and start doing things that would make your future..
Its never late for the right thing to do....
Make your weakness your strongest factor....
Everything has a bright side, i know its very tough to live a life with loneliness and shyness, i'm too victim of all these but its better that you move on, make yourself a better person.
Already wasted a lot of time in such a life which always sucks, so start socializing, if you dont interact no one is gonna interact with you,
start doing voluntary, charity work, it really feels good to help someone who is in need, it will boost your confidence..
Compare yourself with yourself, make yourself a better person from what you were yesterday, tomorrow try to better than what you are today, make goals, especially small goals, try to complete them within deadline, it will also help you...

 

Seems simple but not as it sounds..............
identify your triggers that urges you, it may be anything, loneliness, frustration, depression, hunger, etc... everyone has different trigger, identify them and avoid them when they occur else the consequence you know..
the problem is your brain..which is not in your control...it will try to relapse it's upto you how hard you fight back to control your urges....

 

oh my friend it's not easy, why do you think we are all in this boat together?
Porn is my main trigger, and that leads me do fail, period! There I admit it...
Then I continue in the never ending cycle of fail, get up, fail, get up... you get the picture....
The longest I went this year was two weeks. It was great, until I decided to 'reward' myself, and one lie I keep hearing, 'oh you only failed, today, you can easily stop again'

Easily, no way!

 

daily meditation and general mindfulness will open up the opportunity, to first watch what your minds doing, then start 'reprogramming' it, by mindfully altering behavior patterns... it will allow you to discipline your mind and make it do what you want, instead of what it wants. I've been battling this seriously for a year now, but for years I've tried on and off... Seriously, without being able to be mindful, you WILL NOT successfully reboot. Also, positive behaviours such as working out, eating well, sleeping well, socializing, creating 'achievements' will help massively. A big help for me has been to be very open with friends about the issue, I have even recruited a few onto the reboot. Stay strong brother, don't hesitate to message me