Any Advice in being a Man?

Discussion in 'Self Improvement' started by Deleted Account, Oct 13, 2019.

  1. My advice in being a Man?

    1. Be gentle to your self! Be your own best friend. Stop beating yourself up for not meeting random requirements.
    1. Discard this requirements to yourself. This are random narratives and you are overwhelming yourself. What is a man? Can you really be more or less of a man?
    2. Be a good human? Be someone you respect and love?
     
  2. The true man is the one who is Mature, Honest, Caring, a man of words and principles, who has his opinion and who works to be the better of himself. He is who does not fear to say the truth and does not fear to say No. He apologies when he mistakes. He takes responsibilities, he is a man of ethics, he fogives when he can, and he who persist to have his and others rights. Also the man is who stands with the weak, poor, opressed.

    Manhood is a set of values rather than a look. Smocking, Growing Muscles, Growing beard and showing off may look like signs of a typical man, but if he has no such values then he is non.
     
  3. Everything you have said makes great sense. Even better, this is the smallest and most easy to read guide to become exactly what my question asks. Very good, thank you for giving the time to right this.
     
  4. I've seen your posts in many threads and notice that they're all very sarcastic. I just want to point out that it really isn't helping anyone.
     
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  5. ShadyPerson

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    Good to hear I could help. :)
     
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  6. ShadyPerson

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    I guess Infrasapiens aims at being some kind of a comic relief. I don't mind it. He makes me go haha every now and then.
     
  7. fredisthebes

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    If you can keep your head when all about you
    Are losing theirs and blaming it on you,
    If you can trust yourself when all men doubt you,
    But make allowance for their doubting too;
    If you can wait and not be tired by waiting,
    Or being lied about, don’t deal in lies,
    Or being hated, don’t give way to hating,
    And yet don’t look too good, nor talk too wise:

    If you can dream—and not make dreams your master;
    If you can think—and not make thoughts your aim;
    If you can meet with Triumph and Disaster
    And treat those two impostors just the same;
    If you can bear to hear the truth you’ve spoken
    Twisted by knaves to make a trap for fools,
    Or watch the things you gave your life to, broken,
    And stoop and build ’em up with worn-out tools:

    If you can make one heap of all your winnings
    And risk it on one turn of pitch-and-toss,
    And lose, and start again at your beginnings
    And never breathe a word about your loss;
    If you can force your heart and nerve and sinew
    To serve your turn long after they are gone,
    And so hold on when there is nothing in you
    Except the Will which says to them: ‘Hold on!’

    If you can talk with crowds and keep your virtue,
    Or walk with Kings—nor lose the common touch,
    If neither foes nor loving friends can hurt you,
    If all men count with you, but none too much;
    If you can fill the unforgiving minute
    With sixty seconds’ worth of distance run,
    Yours is the Earth and everything that’s in it,
    And—which is more—you’ll be a Man, my son!

    (If by Rudyard Kipling)
     
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  8. Angus McGyver

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    Just like I didn't become a normal masculine man overnight, you won't either since the manly habits, mindset and characteristics that you want to acquire at the end of this process take a lot of time, effort, perseverance and integrity but it will be all worth it in the long run.
    I was myself almost that scared, hysterical, and unstable simp only 2-3 years ago (much of it due to PMO and lack of clear goals and direction in life) but I have almost completely turned that around over the last 18-19 months and do only have some old paradigms and subconscious programing lingering which is getting less power over me for every month now as I am continuously and progressively rewriting it.

    My suggestion is to start changing your bad habits into good ones, one at a time and incrementally so you adjust and become comfortable with them. Your habitual subconscious programing and ego will of course fight, struggle and demand your attention and the trick to not let in is to not actively fight against these but rather accepting them, acknowledging them and just state that they are there and have no power over you just for being present and demanding your attention.
    A good way to do this when your ego (and old self) fights for your attention is to meditate and simply acknowledge that those feelings are there again, nothing more or less.

    This will not only prevent a relapse but also make you feel better about yourself on a daily basis although it is only by a little bit at a time. The man in this video gives you some great advice of what it means to be a man and what skill sets every man must master in order to stand out as a normal healthy man in today's feminist and misandrist-oriented modern world:

     
  9. There are lots and lots of things I could tell you but the most basic thing I can tell you, which is true for all events in life and something I use myself is: Whatever you do in life: "Can you respect yourself for that."
    when you are about to act or say something, take a distance from yourself and ask yourself: "Would you respect someone who does this?" Would you respect someone who would say that?" "Would you respect someone who acts like that?"
     
  10. It's okay, his humour is adds some spice to the thread
     
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  11. You! As soon as I saw the first three words I knew it was Rudyard Kipling. I came across this quote in April/May and it is magnificent.
     
  12. This is what I was thinking in terms of everyone having a Greater and Lesser Self. Since three days ago I can already see a transition in terms of ambition, respect, responsibility, and overall difference, although it will definitely take quite some time. I am proud to see a new change come into effect so quickly
     
  13. Ahaha I'll try my best to [feel] see the difference next time I am able.
     
  14. The not so great R Kelly once said I don't see nothing wrong with a little bump and grind .
     
  15. My man @Infrasapiens is THE comic relief of nofap. Leave him alone or PM him if you want to start drama.
     
  16. Infrasapiens

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    Thanks dude. Though sometimes I am serious and people take it as a joke, maybe it is for the best.
     
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  17. ShadyPerson

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    Why'd you tell me to leave him alone? I said I don't mind. xd
     
  18. Khufu

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    how to be a man hmm let me think about that, here are the 5 gold pillars of being a man i stand by that has never failed me
    MANage your thoughts
    MANage your emotions
    MANange your ambitions
    MANage your financials
    MANage pmo
     
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  19. Windkick

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    Be the man you want to be, live the way you want, and stop caring about what society "expects" out of you. You're already one step closer to being the best you can be by joining this forum. Society says it's okay to look at porn all the time, but you know it's not good for you. You're rising from the ashes more complete, a better version of yourself, moving forward, undaunted by the expectations of others. It won't happen in a day, it'll build over time until you reach a level beyond what you ever thought for yourself.
     
  20. mattyjsy

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    What? No difference? Have you ever met a woman?
     

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