any advice on how to stop masturbating ?

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  1. 19m

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    do you guys have any tips that worked for you other then keeping yourself busy? my temptation starts between 3-7 pm and i need some ideas on how to control it
     
  2. Joe1023

    Joe1023 Moderator Assistant Staff Member Moderator Assistant

    I wish this was an easy answer, like saying all you have to do is take this certain pill, watch this video online, or something like that. Unfortunately, its not that simple. I don't really think that just keeping yourself busy during that time is the best answer. If you do that, then sooner or later, you'll be at a place where you're not busy or you have to just wait for someone or something to happen and you won't be able to do whatever you normally do to keep yourself busy and you'll be in real trouble. I think it would be a good idea to get some accountability software on your smart phone, laptop, desktop, or wherever you get online from if that's a temptation for you. But I DEFINITELY recommend getting an accountability partner, or even better, a sponsor from an SA meeting. Being part of an accountability group or partnership is extremely helpful!! Never underestimate the power of accountability! Yes, its uncomfortable, but it works if its used right!
     
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  3. 19m

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    because i feel like i’ve turned bi but ive always been straight and it’s a porn induced fetish:( but thanks also !
     
  4. 19m

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    am i really bi or is it a porn induced fetish i know i’m straight
     
  5. daniel193

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    You say you know you're straight. If that's the case, what is it that makes you think you might be bi? Do you watch bi porn?
     
  6. Vilkas

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    If you recognize you have a problem with masturbation it's a good point.
    It's very difficult to get rid of this addiction. I think you should go toSA meeting (on internet or real life).
    Try to stop watching porn for just 1 day, then take a look at what your feelings. Try do control them.
    It's difficult i know but just try it one day
     
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  7. 19m

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    kind of it’s like transgender
     
  8. 19m

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    ok thank!
     
  9. LeHso

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    I know it's hard. especially in the beginning.

    But all of it will pass. just concentrate on changing your mindset and engage in helpful activities that will fill up your dopamine levels. Also, try to avoid being alone as much as you can.

    GL recovering.
     
  10. 19m

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    thanks !
     
  11. Joe1023

    Joe1023 Moderator Assistant Staff Member Moderator Assistant

    Either way, the best thing you can do is get yourself involved in some serious accountability. I think things will clear up for you and you'll find whatever answers you're looking for.

    I wish you the best!!
     
  12. When you are feeling tempted, put up a mental stop sign before you go further and redirect your energy to something else that is positive and productive. Working out is a good alternative. Going for a walk or drive. Call a friend or family member you can talk to. Anything to get out of your head. I'd avoid more electronics though.

    Also, no I think you're straight. But watching porn in general is voyeuristic by nature. It's insidious in its delivery platform too, where you can go from one video to another based on "recommendations". You also can end up chasing the original high so to speak. You become desensitized to regular porn and thus you need more depraved material to fill the void. You'll notice if you stop PMO for a solid amount of time, even just a week, you'll end up going back to how you were with strong, healthy feelings about the opposite sex. Nofap will help you feel more confident with women and sexual intimacy will be easier to achieve.

    Good luck, stay strong, and stay disciplined.
     
  13. Brave Man

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    Dear
    You will have to take the initiative to keep yourself safe.
    Try any other activity at this time.
     
  14. 19m

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    thanks again !
     
  15. 19m

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    thank you !
     
  16. 19m

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    thanks!
     
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