Any Age Accountability Group

Discussion in 'Accountability Partners' started by Halibut, Apr 15, 2019.

  1. pourover24

    pourover24 Fapstronaut

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    @Halibut great to hear from you man. I have been so lazy on this board - I know I could be WAY more active. To really get the most out of this - I feel I should check in every day. However, it's tough to do every day - so every other would be more doable perhaps.

    I'm on a good streak and have seen my resolve begin to grow as I've crossed days off my list. If I can get active again, that would be important.

    @Halibut how have you been doing?
     
  2. Halibut

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    Hey @pourover24 , I have been doing ok man - have had some good streaks where I have noticed a huge improvement to my life:

    - more confidence, more energy, no shame or anxiety, dreams are back when i sleep, I have more self love and love for others and so much more

    Yet things keep coming back to a relapse between 7-15 days kinda mark

    So today I have made sure that it is impossible to access porn

    My phone only can access websites that I have noted down - amazon, ebay ect - my brother has set the password code (he doesnt know why it has been set) and it is at my parents the code written down

    My pc (which I am writing this on and can only get on this website on this pc) is blocked for all sexual key words and adult sites are blocked and the passwords are around my parents who live fairly close by so I am not tempted to unblock any of it.

    So hopefully - fingers crossed - this should help me during those white knuckle moments where I find myself in a moment of weakness it will be like - there is nowhere to look at anything anyway!

    Hope you are doing good man!
     
  3. Halibut

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    @GKDOES, @Accountability Bud, @L1ster - welcome - I have added you all to the leader board - welcome to the group

    I know it will seem difficult to check in regularly but try to check in at least once a week, keep your streaks updated so the leaderboard can show some proper friendly ;) competition between us all!

    And lets hold ourselves accountable together
     
  4. pourover24

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    @Halibut that is really awesome to hear. Keep me updated. I have taken some additional steps as well to try and block access, but lately, I’ve still been finding ways around it.

    To update overall, I relapsed today and am frustrated. At the same time, I’m clearly not taking the needed steps to set myself up for success - just one of which is posting on here even semi-regularly. I need to improve.
     
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  5. Halibut

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    We are good at finding ways round aren't we? ahaha

    Sorry to hear about your relapse man but a relapse isnt a relapse if we learn from it - I had one too 4 days ago when I thought I was pretty much on a roll!

    So I thought crap, what happened here and it was something that triggered me that I said wouldnt and let it be unblocked - turns out its just your mind trying to keep its access to pmo open

    But now I am in a place where the only way to relapse is to find the hidden passwords which my brother has somewhere and am sure wont let me find, then input them to unlock several different blocks.

    just knowing it is difficult is a huge relief in my brain
     
  6. L1ster

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    @Halibut Thank you for adding me to the group and leader board. I have been struggling extra with PMO recently but logging on today and seeing that I've become an official member of this thread gave me a new feeling of optimism, relief and a positive outlook towards the future. I wish to visit the forum and this thread regularly and I feel very happy about being able to engage in some friendly competition with everybody else on here! :D :D :D
     
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  7. Halibut

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    Your welcome man, know your with mates here - tackling a common enemy!

    Keep strong and will see you near the top of that leader board (obvs below me ;))
     
  8. Halibut

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  9. pourover24

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    Checking in, Monday Feb 10th at about 9PM: Been extremely solid the last couple days with very few urges. I had a big win on Friday night, as I was on the road, by myself, which is normally the end of the road for me - but I didn't even attempt anything. I also took the proper steps prior to hitting the road in terms of blocking my internet, which was huge.

    My energy is at the stone minimum right now - so out of it the past couple days. I literally have had ZERO exposure to any dopamine bursts in terms of P or P-subs though, not even really many thoughts, so I'm thinking my body might be a bit out of whack.

    I need to get a bit of exercise in tomorrow, to try and shake off some of this lethargy I'm feeling. Overall, its been a really good last 3-4 days (just low energy).
     
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  10. pourover24

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    Checking in on Wednesday. I just felt the first small sign of urges in probably a solid 5 days, so I quickly came to post on here. The fact is, if I start to indulge urges in my mind, replaying past videos, it becomes a matter of "when" rather than "if" I'm going to relapse again.

    There are some triggers present for me today. I'm home alone as usual, but I am feeling a bit lazy and lethargic and don't feel especially motivated right now. I don't feel depressed per say (I did yesterday, bigtime) - just a bit indifferent. Overall though, as long as I keep these thoughts out of my head, and don't start to mess around on youtube (my only real outlet), I should be fine.

    I'm not going to give in, and hopefully, I'll look back on this day as a day I got a lot of stuff done.
     
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  11. Legit1

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    Don't leave us like that next time! I thought this accountability group was done for, so I just had myself reading reddit stories for strength.

    Right now I'm at day 23, and I'm pretty sure I'm in a flatline where all the benefits have stopped and I'm getting impatient and desperate because the urges are there. But trust me on this one, guys, I'm not relapsing even though I feel like I'm getting my ass kicked. I immediately think about myself and how I will be after relapsing, I'll just be in regret and frustrated at the act. No matter how strong urges are, 95% of the time you will just be in regret after relapsing. It's happened to me before when I was experiencing frustration and big urges a long time ago, and once I relapsed, I knew my brain tricked me with those negative symptoms because the relapse was trash and I just felt bad afterwards to the point I got so mad at myself and was putting myself down.

    But good to have you back @Halibut . This group is too useful and helpful to end up dying.
     
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  12. pourover24

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    Feeling more urges this morning, but I think its more related to having to do some work that I really don't want to do, so I'm just desperate for distractions. Yesterday, I had some of my energy back - which is so encouraging. It gives me a small glimpse of the kind of person I am when I'm not enslaved to porn.

    It has been raining like mad where I live - so that has me back down a bit today.

    @Legit1 good to hear from you! Glad to see you're in the midst of a solid run!
     
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  13. Legit1

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    We gotta keep on going even though we endure tough times over and over. It's like how they say, "tough times makes strong men" and if you really do think about it, it's true that tough times will only strengthen you and make you learn. It's why I'm feeling motivated to keep on going whenever these urges rise up. So let's keep on going, guys! Get those numbers high up so our leaderboard in the 1st post on this thread shows strong numbers! We need to be better every day, even if it's very small improvements.
     
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  14. Journey to Resilience

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    Hi there. I want to join the accountability group. I have to go sleep right now, but I will let you know a bit about myself in the morning. Thanks for your consideration. :)
     
  15. Journey to Resilience

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    'I have read the rules and would like to become an AP'. Here is some info about myself:
    • Male 28
    • Addicted to porn and masturbation for more than 10 years.
    • Porn has damaged me psychologically on several occasions.
    • I wish to quit because I desire to build resilience so I can overcome and reclaim other areas of my life.
     
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  16. Legit1

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    26 days in! I feel calm and like myself already, but I gotta remain sharp at all times because urges arrive out of nowhere and next thing before you know it, you relapse.

    @Halibut We need you back on! Some applicants want to get in the group!
     
  17. Halibut

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    Hello @Journey to Resilience - welcome to the group!!
     
  18. Journey to Resilience

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    Thank you for having me! I would ideally like to check in daily if that's okay with you.
     
  19. Narzisse

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    'I have read the rules and would like to become an AP'
     
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  20. Misha4blues97

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    I have read the rules and would like to become an AP. I am a 22 y/o who's been trying to remove PMO from my life but keep struggling and it is frustrating.
     

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