Anyone giving up other addictions along with PMO?

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  1. I am. Decided to quit drinking for a few months along with quitting the P. Jesus, I don't think I've ever felt this depressed before. I just want to go back to feeling comfortably numb. Starting to wonder if trying to tackle two addictions was a bad idea because I feel like I'm experiencing PAWSx2.
     
  2. That’s got to be tough, man. Quitting drinking was torture enough for me. If I had to give up pmo at the same time I would probably be in the looney bin.
     
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  3. BravelyKegger

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    Besides quitting porn, i am also trying to quit internet use, i was able to give up junk food and processed food, but i might still have a slight sugar addiction.
     
  4. Archangel 77

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    Don’t give in man...alcohol is a real drug, not a natural brain chemical like the one PMO releases. I’m 6 months sober today, and it really took 3 months for my fog to clear, and another month and a half after that for my dreams to come back.

    IMO it’s worthwhile to take on multiple addictions at the same time. It’s given me a wonderful perspective and connection to the emotions underneath all my addictions.

    “This Naked Mind” does a wonderful job debunking the myths behind alcohol and how many subconscious layers we have to untangle in order to avoid it. Alcohol is a Trillion industry for a reason...and it’s not only because of addiction.
     
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  5. BravelyKegger

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    I agree taking on multiple addictions is a good idea, for me along with porn i am also battling sugar addiction, i am a former smoker and i also was fighting that but that was easier for me to stop, also internet addiction.
     
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  6. Yeah it's not easy. The two worked synergistically to keep me falsely content with life for lack of a better word. Once I freed up my mind from these habits, it turned on me and has been tearing me down for the past few weeks.
     
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  7. Good on you for tackling so many habits at once! Hope everything is going well for you.
     
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  8. Dropping dependence on coffee, alcohol and internet games. And the most difficult of them, after pornography: compulsive consumer.
     
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  9. Congrats on 6 months! I guess I still have a long way to go, but I hope things get better after 3 months at least. I hope to make a connection to all these emotions like you said, and try to use it as leverage to improve my life situation. Alcohol is a big industry and it's hard to avoid when it's so in your face everywhere you go. But I'm determined because something has to change.
     
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  10. Big Lebowski

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    Oh god dude, yeah, shit! Quitting binge drinking and also stopping a 8 year on and off heavy smoking at times nicotine habit. I had hardly any sleep in January got a little bit better in feb and slowly getting better in time I think. In and out of sleep but better. I think binge drinking and smoking definitely do not help recovering from a serious porn addiction almost feels like delaying it in my mind. Was torture initially.

    Definitely made me rethink my drinking habit though and why I was drinking like that. I will go back to it socially in the future but never again binging it’s downright cringe and disgusting what it does to your health and especially testosterone. I’ve noticed both my hair and beard get thicker and better clarity of mind.

    Oh and seriously dropping the amount of coffee I have, shit, whilst unemployed I was drinking 3-4 cups a day. One green tea in the morning now and that’s it.
     
  11. Bayneling

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    My biggest concern with countering addiction is an actual fully formed plan for a better life and then replacing addiction with planned action. Don't have it completely down yet. I take rediculously good care of my health but I still struggle being busy enough. I teach myself new things everyday, my big plan is getting into programming, which is coming along but I need a job. I need to work with actual people. Being by myself is easy somedays, if I either see a friend or even just jog a motherfucker I feel fantastic (inspired by David Goggins), but it took awhile to adapt to the joblessness. It wont be long still though.
     
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  12. Archangel 77

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    For sure man! The emotions I pay close attention to are fear, anger and resentment. The action I watch out for is isolation. My addictions breed in shame and guilt and me trying to hide those from others, the minute I go to a meeting or call a friend or sponsor and tell them how I feel, and I mean how I really feel, the feeling starts to fade.

    Don’t let any “industry” intimidate you. I’m in corporate sales and I have to entertain a lot of customers. Once I committed to my sobriety and realized it was a choice and that no one cared besides me, I found a real Rythym. Just last week I was out “drinking” with my clients till 10:30. They were drinking bourbon, and I was drinking soda water with a lime. My life is infinitely better sober.
     
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    I quit smoking . Honestly from experience. Since alcohol is way more serious than PMO . Id say try quitting alcohol first . Alcohol is very serious addiction.
     
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  14. Yeah I'm still working on the isolation part. If I could solve that problem, everything else would be a walk in the park.
    Pretty impressive that you can go out and just drink soda while everyone else is strapping one on. I don't have that kind of restraint yet. For now I'll just have to avoid those places.
     
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    Giving up coffee/tea addiction (still get some caffeine through preworkout supplement) I'd say giving up the coffee while my favorite thing in the world was actually almost all positives while the pmo is really really depressing but I figure it will have to stop sucking eventually right?
     
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  16. Archangel 77

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    Yeah, definitely know your boundaries. I really like my job, and I knew I was going to be surrounded by it. I remember being very diligent about going to meetings, making calls, checking in, and taking a break if any of the feelings got to intense. I also reminded myself that above all, I had the right to leave whenever I wanted to.

    Take your time, and listen to yourself and God. You’ll know what’s best.

    Are you working the steps with anyone?
     
  17. MonkeyDo

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    Right now my main priority is doing NoFap, but I'd also like to reduce my internet usage and replace it with more in-person socializing.
     
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  18. I'm not, I kinda started off doing a dry February that has carried into march. My plan was to take a break from it and then eventually just drink socially which is basically once every few weeks or so. The problem I have is drinking at home every night. the new rule is gonna be no alcohol in the house. If I can stick to that I'll be fine.
     
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    Drinking at home was my problem too. I never missed a day of work, and I have many “I didn’t do that..” moments in meetings. But that’s not the point. The point is not to isolate. The point is to find similarities and connection to others, not differences and separation.

    Also, the monotony of my alcoholism was such a waste. Work, drink, sleep, repeat. No matter what I did during the day, no matter how good or bad the day was, it all felt the same, over and over and over. I’m so glad to be off that merry go round.

    I wish you the best! Drop me a line anytime of you have questions, or want to chat more.
     
  20. B_GoodLuck

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    Besides PMO, I've quit vaping. Vaping replaced smoking, which replaced crack and cocaine a long time ago. Bottom line, my brain has gotten so used to the stimulation from crack/smoking/vaping along with porn that I can't separate the two. So if I try to just vape, eventually I'll start watching porn again, and then I'm back in PMO full-blown.

    It sucks cause I really like to vape, but I can't because it's too connected. I've also promised my wife I'd give up PMO and vaping and I love her. I don't love PMO or vaping; I just lust after them if I choose to.

    A couple of people on NoFap gave me excellent advice regarding vaping, and I've relapsed a lot after continuing to vape, so for me it has to be no PMO and no vaping.
     
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