Anyone have a friend with benefits?

Discussion in 'Dating during a Reboot' started by Runtilmylegsdropoff, May 6, 2017.

  1. Kenzi

    Kenzi Fapstronaut

    Way before all these apps and crap, I had one. We didn't over complicate it.
    It was great.
    Contractual.
    I usually left.
    No love, (pssstt it works better that way ;))
    And we both came back to each other periodically in between relationships.
    It was nice.
    If one of us was attached, we respected that.
    Always.
    It worked nicely for over a decade.
    Through college.
    I don't know why people have to complicate stuff.
    Netflix and chill and all that... Does he like me?
    Just communicate!!
    Jeezaloo.
    Oh, and
    Sex and love are different.
    Just this woman's opinion.
     
  2. Spiff

    Spiff Fapstronaut

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    Understand - that I am in no way trying to attack or criticize you or your views at all.

    My personal observations have been that this can be true, but that's not necessarily a good thing. The more people try and separate sex and love, the harder it is to put them back together. I know people my age and younger that I see have so separated the two that even the idea of reconciling them is gone. I think porn definitely contributes to this.

    I don't know, but it seems to me like having sex and love inseparably linked has the potential to be something magical, much more so than the alternative.
     
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  3. Kenzi

    Kenzi Fapstronaut

    I have no problem with them being together or separate. Personally... Buuuuutttt I'm also not a PA, or obsessed with technology, although I'm familiar with it.
    I don't think the way people have "run away with" the separation of it, is necessarily a good thing either. Or technology.
    But to each their own.
    I know my own experiences, and I'm not one who is easily offended, for the record.
    Everyone is entitled to their own opinions and I never write anything upset.
    I am one of those dry humor folks.... It's often difficult to tell when I'm writing, however. So... I apologize if it ever comes across otherwise. ;)
     
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  4. Taking love out of sex is damaging a lot of people. Making heartless, cold, commitment-phobic people who struggle to deeply connect and develop loyalty.
     
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  5. Kenzi

    Kenzi Fapstronaut

    Agree.
    People these days don't have the range of mentality when it comes to where and how they should be together. (because most start so young)
    It can be extremely damaging.
    Not to mention difficult because they severe that relationship internally and then can't figure out how to put it back together again.
    It's sad, understandably, and I emphasize.
    I also think that men and women, and generations gaps share different perspectives on this.
    It's great to hear different views on it.
     
  6. nomo

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    I used to have plenty, sometimes 3-4 at once. They all stated that being a friend was all they wanted, but I found they were lying. After a few months they would want to be the only girlfriend or they would flake out and I would end it.

    Now I have only one friend with benefits, my wife.
     
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