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Anyone have trouble getting their SO to agree to karezza? Advice needed.

Discussion in 'Abstinence, Retention, and Sexual Transmutation' started by +TenPercent, Sep 10, 2020.

  1. Recently my gf and I made love with karezza and it was really, really wonderful. I felt amazing and it was so good to connect with her. I was at about 35 days of semen retention at that time and while it was a little tricky to not O, I felt very bonded with her after, felt my sexual tension was relieved and soon felt like I wanted to karezza with her again.

    We've done it before. I have explained to her that I am an orgasm addict and it's better if I just don't O. It seems like a win-win to me. She can have orgasms and I'm happy to help her and I find myself wanting to have regular (non-orgasmic) intercourse with her. When I do have orgasms, I find myself craving porn, masturbation, and interaction with other women and I experience less sexual desire for my partner.

    I'm offering to give my gf oral pleasure and love making on a regular basis. I just need her to accept that I will not have orgasms. That's the rub. She says that karezza is nice sometimes but she want to have regular sex, too. She would prefer to have regular sex. She says that it feels awkward for her to have orgasms when I'm not.

    She is trying to be supportive. But her way to be supportive is to simply not have any sex. What a terrible solution! Then we're both frustrated.

    Does anyone else have this challenge? Does anyone else have a partner who wants them to orgasm? Any suggestions on how to overcome this. I feel like I just can't get her to understand and I feel like our relationship is missing something if we are not bonding physically through karezza.
     
  2. Bon-Bon XO

    Bon-Bon XO Fapstronaut

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    Just understand that sex is ALWAYS better without orgasm. My GF and I always have better sex when I don't ejaculate! She loves it, we actually both get more pleasure from it. Maybe the price to pay for her wanting orgasm sex is that she doesn't get sex at all. My suggestion, look up karezza, look into it. Find out the benefits, and how to do it properly. I'm only on Day 4 of retention tomorrow, but I already feel energized!
     
  3. I saw once a phrase of tantric teacher who said that women can sometimes strongly disagree to non-ejaculative sex. He told that reason for this is due to some subconsious, even egoistic reasons and/or matter of control. If you are able to hold your desire to ejaculate, then you are unbeatable and unable to control. You probably need to just stand your ground, especially if you feel that it's better for you and you declared that it's good for you. If you will pass your ground, you will loose yourself. Tougch choice. It's probably strong shit test also.

    I don't know if I understood correctly, are you PIV-ing her also ? Because oral may be not enough.
     

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