Anyone here suffer from social anxiety or just shyness please comment if so

Hello fellow INFJ! Yes we are extremely rare and even more unusual for a male to be an INFJ. Ive learned to welcome my attributes and be aware when I get too emotional. I take things very personally at times at times where another personality type would just blow them off. It's a challenge to balance things. I seriously thought my porn addiction was unusual and rare until I found this site. Now I know I'm not alone in this . Cheers!

 

InfJ reporting in. Well I used to I guess. When I first took the test I got InfJ and I think there are a lot of characteristics that fit me. Now I took the test again in english this time (first time was in german and some questions were different) and I got INFP. I think both fit me well. I guess I'm a mix out of the two types.

Did the test a second time and I wonder why I got INFP again when I always was INFJ. But I always shared traits of both of them.

 

I have social anxiety. I feel that sometimes everyone is watching me when I am outside. I am dark-skinned living in Norway but i am adopted. I sometimes feel that people think I am a refugee since we have many refugees these days and not everyone likes it. I dont like big groups of people especially when i am approaching these groups.

 

I know we got off topic here but discussing personalities can open up awareness to many things including addictions.

With that being said, INFJ's and INFP's do resemble each other and one can often be confused which one they are. You may experience times when you exhibit one than the other. However your dominant traits usually surface more often. Where an INFP are more attuned to their feelings an INFJ can read others better than themselves. An INFJ generally can hold their ground as a good debater, and can be very convincing with their convictions. INFP's are good actors and can "mirror" individual's personas. INFJ's tend to be more analytical where a INFP more artistic. That's just a few differences off the top of my head.

 

I definetely share a lot of the characteristics of a INFP like open mindedness, not very dominant, I have strong ideals but I don't push them on others too much, passionate. But I wouldn't say I'm very creative and I don't consider any person inherently good.
I consider myself a good debater too, more so than an actor.

After reading both personality types, I'd consider myself about 70% INFP and 30% INFJ.

 

I've seen that before where we can flip between different types. I read this recently...a quick way to determine if you are an INFJ or INFP is how you communicate. J's are more direct and "bossy" when communicating. They rather have others do their bidding. The P's are more informative and provide information in a nice way to get what they want. An INFJ will just direct and blurt it out. The INFP will inform someone they are out of milk and need more. The J will just say, get me some milk. They're both introverted but have different styles to communicate.

 

Definetely INFP then.

 

Yeah man i had a social anxiety disorder for all of my adolescent life, which is how i became addicted to porn. now that i am on a good anxiety medicine, its a struggle to stop. Good luck to everyone

 

I had severe social anxiety when I was a teenager, I'd feel sick around people and even have panic attacks when faced with being alone with someone and having to make small talk with them. Unsurprisingly it was at it's most severe in late 2005 and throughout 2006 (when I was 16 - 17) right after I'd discovered streamable porn videos online. Before then I was always shy, but it hadn't manifested itself as a full on anxiety disorder.

 

Chicken and the egg.

I think some people are chemically wired to be more prone to anxiety, depression, and addiction. It becomes a vicious cycle.

You have to treat both to be truly successful.

 

Strong social anxiety. But like every other weakness I have had it is also a blessing in disguise. Learning to take small but consistant steps to overcome it also gave me the tools I have used to develop other useful life skills.

 

Yes man. I had panick attacks and palpitations and am now on meds. I could not bring myself to talking to people at all and I would never pick up on their non verbal clues. I have greatly reduced my PMO frequency and I feel confident with other people now. I can really engage and feel the pleasure of a conversation and real connection!

 

I passed the Myers-Briggs Test and am supposely an INTJ. They say relationships is our achille's heel and I can confirm. I have so much confidence in almost all spheres of my life, I express myself very well but in love, I am at a loss for words. I just don't know what to do in those situations, as if I had Alzheimer's disease or was suffering from amnesia.

 

Yes, INTJs are the rational thinkers who tend to have problems with emotional understanding. They are next to INTPs the type closest to being autistic. Not saying that you're an autist, but a majority of INTJs are probably autistic. Hence there are more male INTJs than females INTJs

 

I have social anxiety and I am very shy as well.

 

Well, that's interesting, I didn't know INTJ were the second type closest to being autistic. I'll search on the subject. I don't think I'm autistic but it doesn't hurt to do the test. Thanks!

 

It's gonna get better the longer you abstain from pmo. I'd suggest quitting video games as well if you play them regularly.

 

That's what I personally think. Autist are usually highly intelligent rational people who have problems expressing emotions and reading emotions of others. Something that seems to fit especially the INT? Types.