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Discussion in 'Rebooting - Porn Addiction Recovery' started by Linex, Oct 27, 2019.
Or got it reduced by doing nofap?
I didn't get superpowers or things like that, but after a year of in and off nofap i think i can say my social anxiety is a lot better, almost non existent.
It's amazing what no PMO does for social anxiety. I've seen a huge difference in myself during my current/initial reboot effort
I don't think "cure" is the right word. In my best streaks, my experience is that I still have social anxiety but it's like I have the "tools" to get through it (maybe dopamine) and succeed, rather than just crumble and escape my fears. And I would say there is maybe like 15% a dgaf attitude that helps.
I think NoFap will help with social anxiety and give you more self confidence and direct your time and energy to more productive things hopefully.
To beat social anxiety you need to take steps to become more social depending how severe it is. It is just not gonna be cured by itself without taking any action and challenging yourself.
The less indulgence in PMO the less social anxiety experienced. This has definitely been my experience.
In the long term recovery Social Anxiety and other sorts of Anxiety will be cured, Nofap is the best solution but you have to be patient. There are helping methods to cope with it, such as Meditation, Exercise, and there is a method was recommended by some members called Wim Hof Method (Google it).
I myself found the better method for me which helped me in my overall Anxiety, Fatigue and Depression, which is Fasting, if you are interested I can explain it to you because there are different concepts about Fasting.
Also one last thing, Do not edge or fantasies, it is the main factor to promote Anxiety in case you are doing Nofap. No PMO is the only way to solve it permanently.
Yeah I used to have huge social anxiety mostly with women, now it's nonexistent.
It's too much cortisol and not enough serotonin that are the main causes of anxiety. I have a thread with a rather weird method that has cured me of severe agoraphobia.
NoFap helps to decrease overall anxiety levels 100%. But it takes time as other users suggested try fasting, meditation,training at gym as well which all helps.
For me I’d say my anxiety actually got worse and has not gotten better, mainly due to the fact that there’s no way NoFap could just miraculously get rid of it. For me throughout the years my anxiety was toned down through crutches, and I think that’s why it’s worse now after detoxing.
By being so tired that you don't even give a crap about people. I started going to boxing lessons, fitness and running. I lived like a professional athlete. I'm so tired but relaxed at the same time now.
In a book called "Rebooting as the best remedy", the author says that it took him a year and half to get rid of GAD, maybe you need to have more patience and try to avoid fantasies as best as you can.
I don’t think so, glad some folks seem to somehow lose their anxiety but for me it’s just worse. I mean I’m managing it as best as possible (considering addictions numb your pain) but I can tell you now it’s not going away, I don’t really have any urges and I honestly doubt waiting another six months will do anything.
You have to treat anxiety at the root as there’s always a reason for why it’s there, some folks it’s easier to shake but for others with more severe anxiety (much like chronic/manic depression) there’s not a whole lot you can do other than possible CBT and destressing methods. While I can’t just get rid of my anxiety I think over time without this addiction I may perhaps be able to reduce the severity of it, it’s just I like many other folks read about all these successes and “miracles” on here and get discouraged, not to mention disappointed when we don’t get the same outcome. Everyone is different, we just need to find what works for us, and quitting porn regardless of how I feel is still the best thing I can do for myself.
What is GAD …and CBT?
I think @Little Bo Peep is right. Everyone is different. I almost have 100 days of rebooting and my social anxiety is not better than before reboot. Definitely I need to know myself to find the root of this big issue.
I hope you get through it, just don't give up, you are almost there, keep doing the good work and things shall improve to better! I get it about the "Miracles" when people get in 30 and 90 days, sometimes it feels discouraging but We are literally different as individuals according to our background of addiction as well as our lifestyles. Also Anxiety may have a root as you mentioned and may not necessarily be related to PMO. But I am sure you will get better by time! Just keep going!
@Free-man GAD = Generalized anxiety disorder, CBT = Cognitive behavioral therapy
I had loads of social anxiety as an adolescent and I'm still not fond of big groups and parties. But I now choose who my friends are and where I go and what I do. To me it was more about that. Did not like to be expected to be or act a certain way. Though my weird self turned out to be a responsible person too.
Part of it was my fear of telephone calls. Could not make a call to someone I did not know. It passed when I had to cold call clients. So you can make money and do therapy at the same time
Beating pmo was another huge step to be more open to people.
Man just exercise that's the cure seriously.
What do you guys think about magnesium, zinc, ashwagandha, and l theanine?
I registered just to answer your question. This is almost Day 9 for me and I usually (not always) have fear of approaching strangers and starting conversations with them. However, this is primarily because I am currently in the US and English isn't my first language (I approach people just fine in my country). So I have this fear of native speakers judging me based on my accent or English skills. I have this fear of saying something that the other person will not understand. Likewise, what if they say something that I don't understand? This fear has always discouraged me from approaching English native speakers, and especially women and talking to them. I hated that because my English is good (but I am a perfectionist!).
It happens to me all the time that I see a woman and I want to give her a compliment, but in my head I can't find the perfect (or right) English word to do so. I start overthinking: Is that a cap or hat? is that a sweater or shirt? is that a jacket or coat? What if I talk to her and get it wrong? She will think I am stupid (I start thinking). So I decide not to approach her and just save myself the embarrassment.
Yesterday (Day 8), I felt better. In my head I was thinking I don't care if someone will judge me based on my accent or English skills! At least I speak three languages and they probably speak one! With great confidence, I approached this lady and I told her that I liked her neckless. "Thank you," she said!
You might think this is something easy to do, but for me it's not! I walked away from her and I was so happy and excited! I felt like I was able to give a compliment without expecting anything in return. I felt like I was able to give a compliment only because I wanted to be nice and to make someone's day (and not because I wanted to sleep with her).
Yesterday (Day 8), I was thinking "huh! I can just be confident when I approach someone. if I don't know exactly if that's a coat or a jacket, I could just approach a woman and say 'excuse me .. hi .. I really want to say something but I am worried that my English is gonna fail me .. but I have to do it anyway .. I like your coat! by the way is that a coat or a jacket?' what is the difference?' " .. simple! I don't think they will be rude! I mean why would they? I am being nice to them! This way I achieved two things:
1) I approached someone without me thinking about my language skills or their reactions.
2) I am improving my skills talking to people. When she answers my question, next time I will be able to differentiate between a coat and a jacket!
So yeah, I am only like Day 9, but I can feel I am more confident talking to strangers. I feel like I don't want to be in my comfort zone anymore!
Not sure if this is helpful at all, but decided to register and share my experience Good luck!