Anyone overcome financial domination ?

Discussion in 'Porn Addiction' started by Chrisfp11, May 11, 2016.

  1. Chrisfp11

    Chrisfp11 Fapstronaut

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    I've been involved with financial domination for 15 years. I hate it yet I go back to it. Anyone have a success story. ?
     
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  2. Ikindaknew

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    @Chrisfp11 ,

    what do you mean? Is your life dominated by financial considerations? Are you financially depending on somebody that uses that to dominate you? Please be more explicit.
     
  3. Pending

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    I guess what the OP means is a practice some (imho pseudo-) dominatrixes offer via internet which has the "money slave" transfer money to her bank account and/or buy stuff from a wishlist. I've never been involved with that, but I have seen some women who also offered BDSM sessions in real dungeons who incorporated this into their repertoire, but for the most part it's women who see an easy $ to be made with no effort. In theory the "money slave" should get his arousal from being humiliated and abused as the source of the decadence of his mistress. It's a really cruel idea, playing into the most severe insecurities and offering absolutely nothing rewarding. Actual BDSM sessions in professional studios might be absurdly overpriced as well, but there you at least have a social experience that may or may not allow you to grow. Anyway that's just my two cents and in no way do I intend to demean the OP.

    On topic: as I said, I have no personal experience with financial domination, but for people to be able to help you maybe you'd like to give us a background of how you got there, what kind of relationship you have with your dom, are there legal documents binding you to the deal?
     
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  4. Chrisfp11

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    That's it- It sucks
     
  5. Moogie

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    DON'T give your money away to findom scamers. You will need that money to retire on. And to take care of your family
     
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  6. BobDobbs

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    I know a girl who was into that. She's a complete piece of shit. She would hire girls to go meet these guys once or twice, but then it would be her behind all the emails, phone calls, and getting the big money. On top of that, sometimes she would have to coerce and/or blackmail the girls she got to do her dirty work.
     
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  7. Yellowbrain

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    Hi Chris, I know what you are going through. I have struggled with the same addiction at least as long as you. Findomination is like porn on steroids and the women who practice it are master manipulators. If you are looking for an acountablity partner, I might be able to help.
     
  8. Moogie

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    Don't give your money away. What are you going to do when your 70 and you have no money because you gived it away?
     
  9. balkanic_falcon

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    It's weird that they can do this legally! I understand you, although i was not into findom, but only casual femdom. NEVER give them you money, the more you give - the more they think that you are "useless", because they really use and abuse you. (I know that femdom fans enjoy this, but, look at it with an open mind - what's the point of "serving" someone who think that you are "useless scum"?)
    All those bitches only want to use you for their own egoist pleasure! Forget about them, they are actually useless bitches who can't earn their own money, so their use naive and unspoiled guys for this. Take care man!
     
  10. Coach.Nick

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    Hi man. You are right about many principles. But to hate them won't help you or anybody. We all have to stay focused on something we love and to keep our vibrations very high (hate is at the lowest level). That's where you become capable of enjoying a life rich of beauty and fun. I highly advice all the people into findom to watch all of my free videos, because it will surely improve your attitude and results you get out of life. I add new video coaching-newsletters where I help people into it, weekly.
     
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  11. balkanic_falcon

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    I just watched your videos, nice job man! I hope it will helps to all findom addicts. Do you know any videos for femdom (in generally) addiction?
     
  12. Coach.Nick

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    All my videos are about findom and femdom, but I can help with any unwanted fetish in general. As I understood that the formula to overcome them is more or less the same. If you need help you can find my email in my twitter profile: look for findom_cure or Coach Nick. Just send me a detailed email and I will make a public but anonymous video newsletter for you and everyone else to learn from, with the needed advices. And I'll introduce you to the most powerful attitude to live the life & sexual life you desire.
     
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  13. Purps

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    Was not even familiar with such thing but I think it would be best to stop that since it is literally a waste of money and time.

    Cannot really relate but logical thing would be to seek a medical professionals help and talk about it with them. Why you do it and so on. Other idea which came to my mind is a bit weird but use that money to donating into some charity organisation. Not the full amount but even the half of the money which you used into this habit. Atleast it would be more beneficial than this.
     
  14. Coach.Nick

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    Very good idea the charity one, as it would fulfill one of your most important needs. The need for contribution. And this alone would give you a lot more power, energy and focus. But I think medical help is not needed. Coaching is what's needed, indeed great coaches advices is what allowed me to completely overcome it and revolutionise my life. Conventional medical help is not offered by people who was into fetishes, so pretty much all of the time, they cannot have that level of connection and understanding of the patient, in these cases. And also I discovered that fetishes as power exchange are related to self-esteem, which increase only when you become successful, and medicines will never make you successful. The only help can be provided by a person with a natural understanding of human emotions and by yourself taking action. But unless you get on the right track, it will be impossible to take powerful and persisten action. Thats why it'll be better and faster to get helped by someone with real life experience in the field.

    Coach Nick
     
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  15. spackle

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    What you are saying is akin to telling a drug addict "stop doing drugs because it's a waste of money and bad for your health." A drug addict knows that, but can't simply stop. Likewise findom. I've been addicted to findom since 2003. I've given around 300k to various women in that period of time. I tell myself daily that I need to quit. Every single time I cum after paying a domme I say to myself "ok this was the last time. I'm done." But it never is, and I never am. I have no idea how to ever quit.

     
  16. BostonB

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    This sounds like a very serious problem. Have you considered addiction counseling? Alcohol, gambling, porn and other addictions work pretty much the same way. An addiction psychologist should be able to help for much less than 300k!
     
  17. Yellowbrain

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    I agree. The implication is that by simply using will power you can stop any addiction. If that were true, there’d be no one on this site. Whenever I try to argue my way out of a craving it only seems to make it worse. I’ve dealt with findom for years. It’s a living hell. I’m in therapy now and using mindfulness to stop running to porn when I don’t want to deal with some unpleasant thoughts or emotions. Strategy and insight is more important than will power in my opinion. A therapist can help you find better ways to deal with whatever’s causing you to use porn. Recovery is definitely nonlinear. Good luck!
     
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  18. Inspire360

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    I wish you all the best man
     
  19. spackle

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    How helpful has therapy been? Do you still find yourself turning to findoms and falling into payments? Can you offer any starting point for how to resist doing that?

     
  20. sakeen

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    Out of interest what do you think your total expenditure over these years to feed this addiction has been?
     

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