Anything specific i have to feel?

[maz20]

Hi, I'm past my third week into nofap (no fapping, no pmo, no porn, etc...), and, well, I feel "fine".

I don't have urges, I'm not depressed or anything, I lift weights everyday, and I feel "fine". I understand it's "only three weeks", but shouldn't I be getting "triggered", or "more emotional", or something else?

It's not a "flatline" -- I don't feel like I've "lost" any sexual drive. Although (on that matter), if anything, I am always willing to "let it go" (ie let go of whatever the current/immediate state of it is, or at least how I am familiar with it at that time).

Basically, I don't really see what exactly the challenge or struggle here is. Either 3 weeks is too little of a time for me to feel anything special, or nofap is just mostly a challenge only to those who are more rigid/fearful/neurotic/insecure/unsure (there's probably over million other words that I could use there!) of giving up or "letting go" of whatever their current sex drive or sexual fixation is at the moment (or was in general).

I hope it's the former -- that 3 weeks is way too little. So far I'm not having any issues "letting go" of my sex drive (I don't know why someone should have any difficulty/difficulties with that), and I'm not feeling any big "superpowers" either (though I do feel somewhat better and more connected than when I did fap).

Edit: btw -- on a more humorous note : ) -- I'm a single guy, and if my post here is suggesting others to be willing to "let go" of their current sex drive(s) or current sexual fixations, does that sound like I'm preaching adultery here? I'm not in any relationship, so I don't know if this would come across as offensive to those who are..........

 

[Strength And Light]

Hi, I'm past my third week into NoFap (no fapping, no pmo, no porn, etc...), and, well, I feel "fine".

I don't have urges, I'm not depressed or anything, I lift weights everyday, and I feel "fine". I understand it's "only three weeks", but shouldn't I be getting "triggered", or "more emotional", or something else?

It's not a "flatline" -- I don't feel like I've "lost" any sexual drive. Although (on that matter), if anything, I am always willing to "let it go" (ie let go of whatever the current/immediate state of it is, or at least how I am familiar with it at that time).

Basically, I don't really see what exactly the challenge or struggle here is. Either 3 weeks is too little of a time for me to feel anything special, or NoFap is just mostly a challenge only to those who are more rigid/fearful/neurotic/insecure/unsure (there's probably over million other words that I could use there!) of giving up or "letting go" of whatever their current sex drive or sexual fixation is at the moment (or was in general).

I hope it's the former -- that 3 weeks is way too little. So far I'm not having any issues "letting go" of my sex drive (I don't know why someone should have any difficulty/difficulties with that), and I'm not feeling any big "superpowers" either (though I do feel somewhat better and more connected than when I did fap).

Edit: btw -- on a more humorous note : ) -- I'm a single guy, and if my post here is suggesting others to be willing to "let go" of their current sex drive(s) or current sexual fixations, does that sound like I'm preaching adultery here? I'm not in any relationship, so I don't know if this would come across as offensive to those who are..........

There are mentions on yourbrainonporn.com of some people reporting no withdrawal symptoms at all. If you are one of those lucky few, I recommend dropping to your knees and praising sweet baby Jesus (or Allah or Ronald McDonald), because PMO withdrawal is terrible for most and an absolute nightmare for some.

I would suggest abstaining for quite awhile just to be sure you are in the clear. I'm on day 152 and just came out of a pretty crappy 12-day flatline. Here's an article about acute and post-acute withdrawal that gives a rough timeline of "typical" addiction withdrawal. http://www.addictionsandrecovery.org/post-acute-withdrawal.htm

Glad to hear you are riding high and hope it continues for you!

 

[Fatsodubmo]

I was like you for 40 days and then WHAMMO! Don't get cocky (not saying that you are), because there is a reason that this is an addiction for us, and some reasons why you are wanting to stop.

 

[maz20]

I was like you for 40 days and then WHAMMO! Don't get cocky (not saying that you are), because there is a reason that this is an addiction for us, and some reasons why you are wanting to stop.

Good to hear 40 days : ) , I was thinking my 21 were sort of .... anticlimactic....

Granted it does feel a bit nice to be off of fap... I feel a bit more "free" and "connected". It's not really "ignoring" sex drive as it is just "letting it go". Not sure where that "philosophy" will take me in 19 more days!

But yeah the problem with fapping is the "fixation" it causes -- even at an involuntary/subconscious level, no matter how we'd like to "consciously" downplay it (our drive to reproduce is a very primal mechanism). I feel NoFap is not at it's core some kind of "self-control" exercise (although you can argue you need at least some to do it!), but rather an exercise to focus and "let go" of one's current sex drive --- in the current/immediate state that one is familiar with it, that is. For some guys it seems to me that this "letting go" is like making some kind of giant sacrifice or losing some friend or loved one.
For me it's not like the temptation of fap (but who knows, in 19 days I could go crazy!! :-D ), it's more the temptation of having a purely (or close to 100%) de-fixated sex drive.

I guess that sounds like I'm advertising "flatline", but it's not really flatline because you're purposefully "letting go" of the immediate state of your sex drive. You are completely aware of this process the entire time-- it's not like you were doing something competely unrelated and "bam! (out of nowhere,) no sex drive!!" or something accidentally like that. And actually to me that would sound kinda scary; I wouldn't say I have a lack of libido, but it's not attached (or somewhat not, less optimistically speaking!) to just random things here and there!