Approached today for the first time in a while

Discussion in 'Dating during a Reboot' started by Conspera, Apr 2, 2018.

  1. Conspera

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    After my first day at my hospital rotation, I walked onto my campus and met my friend and we each approached a couple of girls. He's far more experienced, so he got numbers and great reactions. While I did not get numbers, I at least approached and tried to extend the interaction as long as I could and see what the girls were about. I recorded myself and could tell I was nervous, with me talking fast, having a nervous tone, and not pausing enough. My facial expression were probably more uptight and not exactly confident. However, despite all this I'm glad I approached and had fun. I realize that prostitutes are not the way to sex and that if I want a girlfriend or even hook-ups, I need to actually connect with a girl in a real, natural way. Here's to more of these this week.
     
  2. I'm so happy for you Bro :D

    Overcoming approach anxiety is so friggin' huge step in a mans life that I don't even know anything bigger. And extra kudos for not missing the point: Having some fun. Approaching can be so much fun when you have the right state of mind and you don't take yourself too seriously :D

    My hat is off to You, Sir!

    Ps. Forget prostitutes. They're just breathing, walking Flesh Light substitutes in my opinion. The real satisfaction comes with emotions and that special connection with a real person behind that pretty face :)
     
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  3. Conspera

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    Thank you. I totally do get urges all the time, but I realize that they're not going to benefit me in the long term. I will admit that I felt a bit shitty after all the rejections, but I need to see it as a fun hobby that could transform my life as well.

    Me and my buddy intend to talk to at least a girl a day this week, and I truly hope that I can sustain this for as long as possible. It will desensitize me to the experience of talking to women (I have no real female friends), and at the very least I'll be able to make some female friends and better understand their world.
     
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  4. Abird

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    Congratz! You did more then alot can dream about!

    You can ask your friend to give you some advice.
     
  5. Conspera

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    Sadly today I didn't approach due to the rainy weather, whereas my friend still approached and just brought his umbrella. So for the future, I need to not turn to excuses and still go even if I don't feel like it. I was feeling a bit down today as well, after seeing so many relationship statuses being formed on my Facebook. But I need to stay positive guys.
     
  6. Conspera

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    Went out last night and approached a bunch of girls but nothing stuck. Also went to the mall to talk to some girls, but again nothing went anywhere. Got a number on Thursday, but she was taken and I felt like she was just trying to talk to me to be nice.

    On the positive side, I'm desensitizing myself and my anxiety is getting much better. However, I did end up feeling depressed last night and thinking that it was because of the way I look, my race, and other factors that I cannot change. For example, a girl said that I have small hands when I shook her hand, and that made self conscious. I have other friends who are a bit more gifted in those areas, and they do just fine.

    But the reality is, if I do nothing, nothing will change. I was tempted to see an escort last night, but I realized that it is not who I am. I need to start making more friends who truly understand who I am and can accept me for what I am.
     

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