Are fetishes normal or porn induced?

I do not think violence is normal or healthy in a sexual relationship. Licking and sucking and massaging the erogenous zones seems fine to me though. I imagined much of this stuff long before I had any glimpse of porn. We are not the same as animals in all sorts of ways - some good, some bad. Not all animals are the same either. Some eat their sexual partners! Yikes!

 

When I was a kid, we had two pet rabbits, both males...My sister had the white one, mine was the grey one. My bunny was the "receiver"..Darn I hated that white bunny...

 

Thanks for sharing.

 

I have had this same thought. As a confidently straight man I am genuinely intrigued possibly by taking a more feminine approach to sexuality. I tend to think that certain pornographic scenarios first brought this to my attention. I think I would have always felt this way even if I had never watched pornography, but I think I would have realized it in a different way. It may have taken me longer to come to terms with. Without pornography I would have realized this is a much healthier fashion!

 

I think that turning to nature for explanation is wrong. We are "thinking" beings, so NOT animals. We have fantasies, animals don't. We make scenarios.

Oral stimulation is pretty much mainstream. Not all couples are into it, but still not a surprise if they do. It's not the porn industry that invented these acts. It's humans that fantasize about these things. The Porn industry puts it on screen. BUT the porn industry shows you women that enjoy it. Think about BSDM videos. It's depicting people that are enjoying it. I don't think many people would practice that in the bedroom. One perv might want to try some of that stuff on his old lady...hey honey, this is a gag-b4ll for you!!!! I mean really...NOT HAPPENING, not commonly anyway.

If they do and both are consensual, well more power to them! Everything violence, torture, r4pe fantasy, etc...is something that very few people actually do. Most people wouldn't even think of it. But the P industry did put it online for everybody to see.

The Marquis the Sade was a precursor of BSDM. 50 shades of grey is a fantasy book for ladies... I assume girls might get aroused by reading that. Doesn't say that they all run to the store to buy a whip....but Porn has the side effect of making us believe that its all acceptable.

 

I just want to know how long does it take for a porn induced fetish to go away? Or will it never go away? And we just have to avoid it like a trigger?

 

Well, I have never seen the Kamasutra or any other sex manual, So I cannot confirm what it does/doesn't contain.

 

If it is truly porn induced, then the fetish is a symptom, just like all the others that get resolved as we heal and reboot. But the process takes a different length of time for different people. Also, if you keep relapsing the healing never really get started, let alone resolved.

 

Kamasutra, as far as I know, is an old Indian picture (sexual positions) book. Some positions are well-known. some others need acrobats to do lol.

Your mileage may vary. If it's really porn-induced, and you stop watching porn, the envy will drop eventually. If you are exposed to triggers, well, its playing with fire.

I have simple fetishes and I could be triggered by walking down the street, at the mall, office, and looking at Flickr "safe for work" site...so I have to clear my mind. If yo uare still infatuated by that fetish, that will be hard to get rid of.

If by chance your fetish is very "soft" and your girlfriend for example feels like she wants to help, that is something else. I got a fetish for shoes. So asking her to wear shoes is not a traumatizing experience, if she's willing to do it to turn me on. I DON'T need shoes involved to have a pleasurable sex experience. If I was in a situation where I would NEED my GF to wear shoes to have an erection that would be a bad thing.
BTW, my GF doesn't really support my fetish, so its dead in the water. I have to part with it. It's also something you have to consider; Is you fetish is liveable and viable to be kept and introduced into a relationship? If its violent or weird, degrading, shocking, hurting beliefs, well you got your answer...