Are pictures or vids of your SO still considered porn ?

Discussion in 'Rebooting in a Relationship' started by Nelly67, Mar 12, 2017.

  1. Nelly67

    Nelly67 Fapstronaut

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    I'm playing Devil's Advocate here and asking a question that may possibly help people out (or I may get flamed to death !). So here goes : is looking at pictures and videos of your SO wrong ? I know it's not physical contact (which is the ideal) and I know it's still masturbation (which won't help with sensitivity issues), BUT you are being turned on by the right person, so the mental associations must still be good. No unrealistic expectations, just as it is, real life, which I don't think is degrading or wrong (as long as they are happy that you take and keep the photos). I work away a lot and stay in hotels so this could be a help to me in a time of need (I'm trying to reboot, but only 1 week in, so this would be kept as a last resort).
    Look forward to hearing peoples opinions on this.
     
  2. At the end of the day it's up to you if you want to consider that a relapse imo. But I personally would stay away from that, at least for the 90 days. And when you say pics/videos of your SO, I'm assuming your talking about nudes? Or videos of that person that has triggers?
     
  3. Health is key

    Health is key Fapstronaut

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    pictures wire you wrong man. Absolutely sucks but I had to delete all the nudes of my Girlfriend. If you're trying to get over pied 100% you have to stop. If you have no porn addiction and no pied I say it's chilled but defeats the point of nofap which is to not to fap.
     
  4. Nelly67

    Nelly67 Fapstronaut

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    Thanks for your input folks, I'm trying my best not to fap (and well into my 2nd week without a relapse), and not looked at any pics or vids yet, but my personal objective here is to improve my relationship with my wife and remove my dependency on porn, so the more she turns me on mentally the better. In person is obviously the best, but when I'm working away for 4 days it's very hard (no pun intended !) and boredom can turn one's mind to the personal pleasures. And, just for the record, I never have a problem with ED, just DE (and feeling bad about viewing porn).
     
  5. DonDraper

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    Yes, because like all porn videos, they will eventually grow stale. You will lose interest and look for another. There is no such thing as an addict who keeps the same dose every time. Especially when it comes to porn.

    Look up the coolidge effect.
     

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