Gooding
Fapstronaut
I do not need AP. For instance I wake up in sleep the moment pornlike graphic appears.... My SO calls that integrity... I call that conscious.
But in general if the SO is deeply hurt by the spouse's PA, takes it as something wrong with SO, or the PA is because SO is not good enough, etc etc ... Basically if the SO happen to add to the already complex problem of PA - it is a terrible idea for SO to be AP.
If the SO is realist, pragmatic, and understand PA as a disease, and sees worth and commitment from the spouse with PA, and could really allow relapses, failures, without making it a huge dispute... The AP role could be a great re-bonding opportunity.
So IMO it depends the individuals and how their relationship is, whether the SO can REALLY be an AP.
My SO is a great choice for AP. But our sexual relationship is non existent so I do not want her to be my AP.
But in general if the SO is deeply hurt by the spouse's PA, takes it as something wrong with SO, or the PA is because SO is not good enough, etc etc ... Basically if the SO happen to add to the already complex problem of PA - it is a terrible idea for SO to be AP.
If the SO is realist, pragmatic, and understand PA as a disease, and sees worth and commitment from the spouse with PA, and could really allow relapses, failures, without making it a huge dispute... The AP role could be a great re-bonding opportunity.
So IMO it depends the individuals and how their relationship is, whether the SO can REALLY be an AP.
My SO is a great choice for AP. But our sexual relationship is non existent so I do not want her to be my AP.