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Are your GFs/wifes supportive?

Discussion in 'Rebooting in a Relationship' started by Deleted Account, Mar 27, 2022.

  1. Hey there,
    I'going for my final reboot, I'm more motivated than ever. The longest streak in the past were 155 days. But this time it's different because my wife knows about and want to support me. I wonder what experiences you guys have made with supporting partners. Maybe you have some useful hints for me...
  2. If you went 155 days before you had her support, you can go much longer and conquer your addiction now that she's supporting you. However, for recovery to be everlasting, you have to do more than simply abstain from the behavior. True long-term recovery requires knowing what pushed you towards addiction in the first place, and then you have to work through that. Find healthy ways to respond to whatever that is instead of acting out. That way, when urges hit, you know what to do to keep from falling back into addictive behaviors.

    Also, now that your wife is aware and wants to support you, be open and honest with her about what's going on in your recovery. If she asks questions, tell her the truth without minimizing, justifying, rationalizing, or getting defensive. Those things will only make it more difficult for her to continue being supportive.
  3. happenstance

    happenstance Fapstronaut

    I couldn't have said it better myself.
    +TenPercent and hope4healing like this.
  4. Caveat Emptor

    Caveat Emptor Distinguished Fapstronaut

    My gf knows generally about my PMO issue. I’ve been mostly PMO free during my relationship with her. There have been a few stressful moments when I fall, and PMO, most notably in Spring 2020 when we couldn’t see eachother because pandemic. I told her about that one and she was supportive. I routinely go 30+ Days totally PMO free, and then PMO once because of temporary job stress or something like that. That’s the rut I’m currently in.

    I don’t tell her about each one. More out of embarrassment than anything. I’ve done a 535 day streak, and at least two 1 year+ streaks.

    So even though she knows this is something I’ve struggled with and is always supportive, I don’t tell her out of embarrassment.
    gauta likes this.
  5. legendracer79

    legendracer79 Fapstronaut

    I'm very supportive of my boyfriend rebooting and actually wouldn't mind him watching porn or masturbating but understand him trying to refrain. He discussed it with me a few times and felt he had been watching porn for a long time and felt he had almost become addicted to it and wanted to stop.

    He started to reboot in December and made it all the way through into January before he told me he had masturbated but hadn't looked at any porn. Since then he restarted and made it to 98 days so far which is his longest. He said the first or two month was the hardest but his urge to masturbate has reduced a lot and is easier to resist.
    kropo82 and gauta like this.
  6. Real Jerry Seinfeld

    Real Jerry Seinfeld Fapstronaut

    My girlfriend couldn't really care either way I don't think. It's never affected our sex life and it's never really dominated my behaviour in a way that's impacted upon her. She's supportive of me doing NoFap but only because it matters to me.
  7. MarioCorrelos

    MarioCorrelos Fapstronaut

    My girlfriend actually doesn't care about NoFap. She does not watch porn because she doesn't like it and means nothing to her, but she understand that porn is normal and has never told me not to watch it. Of course, she considers M as a totally normal and fine thing.

    She doesn't support me especially about NoFap. I would even say that she doesn't understand it or why I do it. I think a good way to describe it is that she couldn't care less. But truth be told, I've never given her reasons to worry about it, never made her aside because of porn.

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