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That's self sabotage.

You don't want success with these girls because that would mean you would have to do something uncertain and uncomfortable that's currently beyond your level of competence, confidence, and level of experience. So you ruin any opportunities before it has the chance to be explored. You reject yourself before others can reject you. You protect yourself from possible pain, problems, and negative experiences before they even have a chance of happening.

Your current identity is that you're unsuccessful and unable to develop relationships. You're doing everything to stay consistent with that identity by self sabotaging anything that could change or challenge that identity. Because it's more comfortable, certain, and easier to stay where you are with what you know.

Allow yourself to be with these girls with all your current flaws. Allow them to accept or reject you at their own discretion. You can't gain competence, confidence, and experience without first doing something despite being incompetent, insecure, and inexperienced.

 

Somehow you see yourself as not masculine enough to make a move which is causing your anxiety. If they approach you they are interested and will most likely be ok if you made a move. Keep talking and hanging out with them and feel it out

 

Just stay on nofap no porn no masterbation and let nature take it's course . Make a move I have kissed women just after meeting them just because I wanted to kiss them. The key is to listen to your body when your heart starts racing that means make a move start of with little small moves . But even if she is attractive in your logical mind and your brain says make move don't you have to feel it in your body . When you fap to p this will not happen when you don't pmo it will unfold naturally .

 

Avoid using strong scented personal hygiene products and only use deodorant not antiperspirant you want women to pick up your hormone change on nofap .

 

That's pure gold, man! I'm certain you need much experience and time in life to access these truths. I'm exactly on the stage of confrontation with these elementary principles. Thanks for this.

 

You just have to get your heart broken enough times until you learn from your mistakes and decide to not tolerate losing anymore.

And by losing I don't mean never getting rejected or failing. I mean not going for what you want in life because of fear.

The more risks you take, the more you'll fail, but also the more you'll succeed.

The less risks you take, the less you'll fail, but also the less you'll succeed.

 

Dude this is so deep you can feel the earth's core!
This is me in a nutshell