Ask me a question (500 days clean)

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  1. vibemaker

    vibemaker Fapstronaut

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    I don't know the scientific details. I just know from experience that the longer you practice semen retention the more energy you tend to have during the day.

    No, sex is amazing.

    I just don't have a masturbation habit and I'm strictly against porn.
     
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  2. AstronautDerek

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    Hi bro,

    I am new to Nofap. My journey started when I realized I can't stay hard for long while masturbating but my erections were hard and use to sprout whenever I spoke to my girlfriend.

    I took this challenge as a ray of home to get my teenage erections back. I am 26 now.
    I completed 75 days of reboot. In those days I had times when the erections were 70% strong and times when they were not there at all.

    Today morning,I had a dream. Mostly a wet dream but I woke up before anything came out and stopped the flop in the middle. Post that I started getting burning sensations as I peed and some pre-ejaculate came out. Out of fear,I realized I had to do something and thought of releasing out of helplessness. With two or three strokes and s semi erection,I came loads.

    My question is,have I relapsed?
    Is there a problem with me Physically or everything is there in the mind?
    Have I lost the benefits?

    I didn't orgasm but it was more like a relief. I am scared now. I don't know how to proceed further and want teenage time type erections with my partner. Please help. Please
     
  3. r8js

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    congratulations 75 days ....
     
  4. AstronautDerek

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    But bro,I lost my streak I guess. I suppose it was to happen as a wet dream but didn't I just hope I don't lose the benefits. I will complete my 90day reboot. I wanna achieve my teenage type erections again. Wanna feel that way again.
     
  5. How do you deal with overthinking?
     
  6. AstronautDerek

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    I can't. I just think in mind that tomorrow will be better. I drink lots of water and play pubg or any game with my friends and family.
    I am still scared bro. I guess this is what's making it extra worse, pandemic+additional stress
     
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  7. AstronautDerek

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    Just believe that tomorrow will be better. I planned to do full 100 days and will continue the count. I believe me cumming was a necessity for my body than it was for pleasure.
     
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  8. idonthaveaname

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    I have just one question. How do you fight the fear of relapsing? Whenever I'm doing good, I have fear in the back of my head. A voice telling me that I will relapse eventually and it's only a matter of time. If I didn't have this fear, I probably wouldn't relapse. An answer to this question would be very helpful.
     
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  9. AstronautDerek

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    I understand bro. We have somewhere felt that this is what we have to live like. We know we can't get it any better sooner and if we relapse we need to go through everything again. That becomes scary. Masturbation becomes scary.Every post here has only one option...carry ON. TRUST me,if you could ejaculate before,you can later too. It's the erections that might differ
     
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    Guys,I have shared a thread too and have some questions. I don't know any urologists or sexologists and can visit them too due to the rising Corona cases at my place. I have placed certain questions there with almost a detailed info. Can any one of you please help me with my questions too? It will be a great help. Please guys.
     
  11. What about general overthinking?
    I've spent the whole day in my head planning for what I want to do with my future, but I haven't actually done anything.
    I made excuses for my overthinking such as: "I'm not fapping"/"It keeps me from fapping" and "I want to be ahead of everyone else with my plans".
    I feel groggy, tired, lazy, stressed and foggy after my overthinking session, exactly the same as if I were to PMO.
    The problem is, I do this to myself on every streak. I can't enjoy living in the moment for some reason.
    I meditate for 1 hour a day, but that's just a temporary fix. It only works for about 10 minutes, then it wears off again.
     
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  12. AstronautDerek

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    What I believe is,the only way out is to accept. I am trying to incorporate this in myself too. The more we try not to think of something,we end up doing the. I still do it.

    You see,someone told me, if you don't like a person or a place,you can get rid of them. But it's your memories that make you and you will have them almost throughout your life. You cannot escape from them. It will stay with you.So try to accept.
    Meditating for an hour is too much I guess,I can hardly go 10 mins that also struggling to stay awake.
    Do yoga/hiit/ lifting too in that one hour. You need to start somewhere.
     
  13. AstronautDerek

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    I plan to start my life normally post a streak.i Don't know how. I just hope I get well soon. Keeping my fingers crossed! :)
     
  14. PMO addict1

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    Dont u have anything else to say???.....U keep congratulating others only in every post.. LOL
     
  15. k123

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    I have read and listened to people saying this over and over again,that for you to get rid of this PMO habit you have to deal with the underlying issue and honestly speaking I have had an okay childhood with no trauma or abuse of any kind but I have tried kicking this habit for the past 3 years with no success. I really don’t know what to do now
     
  16. Lasthope1234

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    Can we reach a point where we actualy hate our unhealthy fetish’s? A complete healthy and natural rewire?
     
  17. vibemaker

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    I'd try the following: See your fear as a reminder, that there is something, that is important to you: Becoming free of porn. You wouldn't have this fear of relapsing, if becoming free of porn wouldn't be important to you. See your fear as a sign, you're now moving closer to your true nature. You're on your way to becoming the man, you want to be.

    Be aware, that everything you try to fight, will become stronger. It's the same with your fear of relapsing. Be okay with your fear, try to settle into it. Just let it be there, but don't do anything with it.

    So don't focus on the "what will happen if I relapse?" so much. Focus on the other side of your fear. What will happen if you never relapse again? How will your life change? What do you wanna build in your life? Imagine that. And plant this picture in your head. Hold your image and let it guide you through your darkest moments and fears ... It will be there for you. Once that image is so strong in your mind, it'll become a compass in your life ... and then porn will lose it's power.
     
  18. BigOne79

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    I haven't masturbated and orgasmed in close to two years now but I go back and peek at porn which gives arousal so I really haven't been hard mode then in this journey. I am claiming no PMO for close to two years but it really isn't a streak then if I still am looking every three or four weeks..
     
  19. Seascape

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    I woke up this morning with the idea that my emotions are driving my addiction. I have struggled all day with them . I am glad I have discovered your posts . Thankyou
     
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