Assess my case, how bad is my PIED

Discussion in 'Porn-Induced Sexual Dysfunctions' started by CanDoe, Mar 16, 2020.

  1. CanDoe

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    I've been masturbating with a roughly once a day rate for 8 years since I was 15. Around the third year I've witnessed that the intense pleasure I've been having was dying away. Then the unwanted fantasies began. Stuff I would never do in the real world (although I guess I should consider myself fortunate that I didn't go as extreme into the genres some ppl go to). Around 6th year I guess I saw dryness on my penile skin and got really scared. Started using a cream. That's better now. I've been trying to quit for the last two years so even if I couldn't keep a streak longer than 20 days at least my daily rate of PMO decreased at least.

    Most of my masturbations have been in the toilet. That's where most of my relapses happen. I really hate the fact that I taught my brain to associate the toilet setting with arousal.. because all my PMOs was in a sitting position I can't get my dick working when I'm standing up. Is that normal?

    Lately I've been exercising with arousing myself with only the thoughts of women I find attractive in real life. Like girls from college. And it worked, at least it got my dick up for a prolonged amount of time but M only to their image wasn't enough for O. I still need porn acts, if not pornstarts, to ejaculate.

    When I'm not sitting, my dick never gets hard. It also never gets hard around women I find attractive. Is that bad?

    Also, important: I've masturbated always with three fingers, not the usual wrapping my palm around my dick. This scares me as well. When I masturbated, even while looking at porn, while masturbating with the classical palm wrapped around dick.. I couldn't ejaculate. I couldn't feel the same sensations I felt masturbating with the three-finger grip. The three-finger grip puts pressure in certain areas, not the whole dick, so I think it's an even less realistic simulation of a real life penetration. I fear that I taught my dick to get aroused to the three-finger grip so deeply that I will never be able to cum during normal sex. Is this true?


    Does all of this stuff really get cured with an Hard Mode reboot? I'll really do all it takes to reach a stage where my dick gets aroused easily by real life women.
     
  2. Nucleus

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    Well bro, you are looking at a minimum 90 day reboot to sort that out. It sounds exactly like PIED, do I guess that’s the good news.

    Go for the hardest mode you can stand. Don’t even look at women... Don’t think about women. Don’t replace masturbation with another bad habit like video games. Go for long walks and do a hell of a lot of exercise.

    Don’t relapse. This... is... your... big... chance.
     
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  3. CanDoe

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    man I have many female friends.. some I find attractive. Is the "don't think about women" really necessary? I think it's literally impossible for me to not think about women in a given day. I can manage not thinking about porn.. but women? that's very hard..

    thanks for the support tho!
     
  4. Nucleus

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    Well, I mean don’t think lustfully about them. Now you mention it, I’d take a couple of months OFF these friends.
    Do they dress sexily? Do you fantasize about them or check them out? If o, it’s part of your problem.

    If they are real friends, I know this is inconvenient but the truth is the truth. One possible solution (if they are REAL friends) is to ask them to cover up in your presence
     
  5. CanDoe

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    Oh ok I think I can manage not thinking lustfully. Since I'm in self-isolation due to the virus I wouldn't able to see them for a long time anyway.
     
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  6. PIEDSufferer

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    Well, it might also be a situation where maybe you SHOULD interact with women in more natural settings. Porn is not natural or realistic, and it’s the main thing you’re trying to cut, right? Let me ask you something: Have you ever been in a sexual situation with a woman in real life? Because sometimes it’s hard to measure the severity of PIED unless you have been with a woman and had failures. There’s definitely some desensitizing going on based on the description of your typical activities. But who knows how your body might respond during actual interaction? You might find that your predictions prove false. That’s an optimistic scenario, of course. But through my personal experiences with sex, I’ve learned an awful lot about myself, my likes and dislikes. Things I did and did not expect. You know? PIED is a complicated thing that’s hard to measure. There’s a mixture of desensitization, addiction to very specific things, and a psychological performance anxiety attached to it. Not an easy problem to cure because there is no single thing that works for everyone. It’s up to your own personal reflections to determine what is happening with your mind and body, and what you need in order to fix yourself.
     
  7. CanDoe

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    No I haven't. I get your point though, thanks!
     

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