Atrcative guy who cant get a gf

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  1. cadia guardsman

    cadia guardsman Fapstronaut

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    I ve being told alot of times that i am pretty, i am hot , i have a nice body, and actually woman usually are very nice to me and get atracted to me but i cant get onto a relation i dont understand i just get friendzoned damn it hurts seen uglier guys getting the girls , but i have no luck , i start to doubt am i really pretty, people say sow but i get nothing it makes me so sad
     
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  2. fredisthebes

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    I agree. There is a stigma about being friends with girls that i couldn't disagree with more. Your lady friends are very useful to you, open up to them. Tell them you want a girl. Get there advice on how to dress, how to talk. Ask them what is attractive about you. If they like you as a friend they will most likely help you out. Most girls love a project :)

    Getting her to set you up with her friends rarely goes well, but its worth a try and its always good to go on dates, even if (maybe especially if) they dont go so well.
     
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  3. modern milarepa

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    Bro you need to learn game and female nature
     
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  4. It's probably not helpful to fixate on your own looks. As long as you're presentable, it's enough, and apparently girls respond to how you make them feel, anyway. I say this having no experience, but it might still be true...
     
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  5. Pro.

    Game & Female Nature?

    I have no idea...
     
  6. palindromo

    palindromo Fapstronaut

    maybe you lack in character , maybe you are introverted
     
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  7. Relationships is not just based on looks. Good looks will get you noticed, but its not enough for someone to fall in love with you. Do you ask good questions? Are you nervous around women? Do you know how to give compliments or make them feel comfortable? There is so much that goes into making a romantic connection. Don't focus on your looks. Focus on how to be good at conversations, being a good listener, and be romantic!
     
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  8. maybe the personality's bad or you're not social
    maybe it's a magic curse or just bad luck who knows
     
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  9. modern milarepa

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    Now that you mention it, he only talks about how good looking he is, it seems he has only relied on his looks to attract girls and sure it's the first hook, your looks but after that it's where you need personality, emotional intelligence, humor.

    Bro, beautiful people problems be like...

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  10. cadia guardsman

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    A bit
     
  11. cadia guardsman

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    I make them laught quite easily but they never want to go further they see me has a friend but just that, i think its about confidence
     
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  12. cadia guardsman

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    Thats true
     
  13. cadia guardsman

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    Bro im not a greek God but thats what people say about me, yesterday when i finished my train one of the girls who works there just said " oh so pitty the hottests guys on the gym are leaving (me and a friend that i was training with) "
    And she today talked alot to me but its not more than that

    I got humor , but im not much talkative , a bit shy and too much negative sometimes , i really have to work on my personality
     
  14. modern milarepa

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    That is a good looking man problem, you almost have to do nothing at all to get girls attention so you haven't develop other skills. You need to forget about how good you look, stop mention it, act as if you were ugly physically and create new dating skills.
     
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  16. cadia guardsman

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    You are right i really need to work better my dating skills, specially flirting i suck on that
     
  17. cadia guardsman

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    To build connections sure, to escalate i dont believe much on that
     
  18. Redemptionisrequired

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    Well, first off the so called "friend zone" everyone says they're put in is self-created. What I mean is this: If you're interested in someone as more than a friend and they view you as just a friend, the choice is yours to continue on in a friendship that will leave you longing for more and make you bitter...or you can go down the path of respecting yourself and ending the one way friendship and moving on to other women.

    As everyone else mentioned, you need to work on your social skills. You mentioned others tell you that you're attractive, you seem(from your wording) not to believe it to be true. This means that you need to work on your self-esteem as well. You should not need to rely on anyone else for your own self-worth, my friend.
     
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  19. gordie

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    This is why King Arthur in the myth has royal blood but is raised by peasants.
     
  20. skaterdrew

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    I seen these debates recently where people were going over tons of these studies, and the conclusion they all came to was men are much more triggered by visual stimuli than what women are. The results showed men were much more triggered by visual stimuli than women.

    This isn't really a surprise. But this means a few things. So pornography for instance, this is one of the reasons why men are much more likely to use porn and have a problem with porn than women.

    It also means that physical attraction is generally much more important to men than what it is to women.

    Women generally seem to be more interested in personality, confidence, a man that can handle himself, look after himself etc, a man who is doing well with their life etc.

    It appears to be correct that psychical attraction is no where near as important to women as what it is to men.

    This honestly doesn't surprise me though.
     
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