Atrcative guy who cant get a gf

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  1. skaterdrew

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    Something else I want to add is I actually remember in my younger years, so in my late teens, a lot of women of the same age range back then, late teens did come across like they were much more interested in looks back then.

    So for instance back then it came across like women would of been interested in a guy and chased a guy simply based on the guys looks. But as I have got older, so through my twenties, now 30. It seems like most women as they get a bit older stop doing this, they no longer seem to be interested in a guy simply based on the guys looks. It seems like the guy basically has to have a lot more going for them than just that for the women to be interested. Where as when these women were a good bit younger looks did seem to initially be enough to really get their attention.

    This is something I have noticed as I've got a bit older.
     
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  2. Blessedby TheMostHigh

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    Looks will always, no matter the age, be the #1 measure of attractiveness to the opposite sex. Physical attractiveness is a depiction of health. As humans we are attracted to those who look the healthiest, so that we may have the healthiest offspring possible. Someone with yellow rotting teeth is not attractive, someone with pimples all of the face not attractive, why? Because it means they have health problems. This is the same process in men and women. If women are interested in a man for reasons other than physical attractiveness, they are likely looking for some sort of benefit that’s unrelated to having children. For example a gold digger will marry an ugly man and have his children, just so she can have a comfortable luxury life.
     
  3. skaterdrew

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    Studies actually suggest that men are far more triggered by visual stimuli than women. What this basically means is psychical attraction is generally much more important to men than what it is to women.

    It's also one of the reasons why men generally consume much more pornography than women, and why much more men have a problem with pornography than women.

    But yeah I think if someone had yellow rotten teeth that would put most people off, men and women. That is simply someone who isn't looking after them self. Most people likely wouldn't be interested in someone like that.
     
  4. BoraxKarloff

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    I was just telling a dear friend that when I was 13, I was chubby, my mother cut my hair (badly) my clothes weren't especially fly and I've never grown to over 5'8. But from the start, women liked me. I lost my virginity at 16 and from then on, I was never without a girlfriend until the last two years of my life. Women like a smart guy who can make them laugh. And I'm also a professional musician/performer/ham, and that's sort of Alpha, I guess. I can take control of an audience and rile them up. When I walk into any venue or restaurant though, no one notices me, esp. the women. I have to go up to them, which I have no problem doing, and turn on the ol' Borax charm lol. Sometimes it works, sometimes not. I'm not bad. I'm just nobody's "10." I do terribly on Match.com. But in person, I do ok.
     
  5. BoraxKarloff

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    I am unclear as to why you apply the word "pretty" to yourself when that's typically a term applied to women and not to men. Can you explain? Not trying to be a wise guy, just curious. And thanks for posting your dilemma.
     
  6. Blessedby TheMostHigh

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    There are many instances where someone can have an unattractive health feature like rotting teeth, without the problem being their lack of hygiene or self care. It’s not that it represents someone who doesn’t take care of themselves, it’s that it’s physically undesirable.
     
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  7. skaterdrew

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    Yeah I agree with you, something like that would likely be physically undesirable to most people. All I am saying is you don't need to be a really attractive guy to end up with a really attractive woman.
     
  8. cadia guardsman

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    Well english is not my mother tongue so well handsome, cute is it better?
     
  9. BoraxKarloff

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    haha yes my paisan
     
  10. True One Shot

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    Keep your head up mate
     
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  11. Tafi

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    Show them a wallet that is full,and they will chase you along the road
     
  12. You can attract attention, but what do you have as a man that ensures retention?
    Stupid women focus on shallow qualities and end up baby-mamas or getting cheated on. Stupid men do the same and end up paying alimony. Don't be stupid.
    Go for women who value men who have good work-ethic, have strong values, is stable, knows where he's going... Do you have these qualities?
    Go for women who understand the value of those men, so they themselves work on their own domesticity, their faith, their beauty, etc.

    A lot of these females who will stick around you secretly want to know whether or not you're into them.
    Do females even stick around you to begin with? (this requires charisma; when you spend time with a woman, are you leading? Is she enjoying herself based on your plans and direction? Or she doing all the work?). Not every man is going to be charismatic enough to be able to retain the attention of many women. And that in itself is not an all-around good thing, because maintaining relationships with women is always costly and can be troublesome.

    It seems like you just want one girlfriend. You already have good looks to attract attention. Just be direct. You're not going to get them to fall for you because that takes much more than good looks. This isn't Disney. Good looks aren't enough to make a woman fall in love- and if it is enough, like I said, they're stupid.

    And your saying it hurts to see uglier men retain and advance in their relationships with women says a lot. Maybe the first quality you should work on is humility. A lot of women don't like jerks.
     
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  13. MaxEvans

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    I'm a handsome guy, and I've got a "fitness model" body. That combination has gotten me a lot of hook-ups. But it has never gotten me a girlfriend or allowed me to keep one. When I'm successful in a relationship it's because I'm "fun to be around", "a good guy", "stable", "reliable". I want to treat them right and "be there" for them. That's the most important thing. And those times when I haven't been successful in a relationship it's because I've acted like an asshole, and when that happens they don't give two-fucks about my looks...they kick me to the curb. It's all pretty basic stuff.
     
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  14. cadia guardsman

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    Not much true and i hate does woman
     
  15. cadia guardsman

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    Yes i have

    When i wrote that i was a bit buthurted now i feel better, people usually say im too much humble

    I like to be a jerk sometimes and usually when im a jerk things fo better, but with her i was the total opposite , maybe that was my problem and turns out she is bisexual so maybe what she liked me was my ass
     

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